These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
Randy Travis: A Story of Resilience and Hope
Randy Travis is a well-known country music performer whose rich baritone voice has won over millions of fans. Travis has had great success in his career, from selling over 25 million albums to collecting Grammy awards. But despite his notoriety and splendor, he has had his share of difficulties.
Travis went to the ER in July 2013 with complaints of congestion; nevertheless, a few days later, he suffered a massive stroke. He was placed on life support to preserve his brain due to the substantial damage to the core of his left brain. With only 1% chance of life, the doctors forced his then-fiance Mary to make an impossible choice. Nevertheless, she remained by his side, resolved to defend his life.
After undergoing brain surgery, Travis stayed in the hospital for more than six months to recuperate. He had trouble walking and speaking after the stroke, but with his wife’s help and physical therapy, he was able to gradually restore his strength. Even though it got harder for Travis to sing and perform, he didn’t let it define who he was.
Randy Travis stunned the crowd in 2016 at the Country Music Hall of Fame by performing “Amazing Grace” for the first time after suffering a stroke. His performance stunned everyone in the room when his wife spoke on his behalf. It served as evidence of both his tenacity and the miracle he encountered.
Eager to reunite with his fans, Travis returned to the CMA Fest three years later. He smiled beautifully as he posed for pictures, signed autographs, and greeted his fans for the first time in twenty years. In terms of getting his life back and sharing his music with others, it was a big step.
Travis shared details of his experience in his autobiography, “Forever and Ever, Amen: A Memoir of Music, Faith, and Braving the Storms of Life.” He was frank in sharing his highs and lows, from his celebrated music career to his struggles with drinking. Travis talked about his serious financial difficulties as well as the lessons he discovered along the way.
Despite his continuous battle with aphasia, Travis’s wife affirms that his singing ability is still present as he approaches his 61st birthday. His baritone voice, which is a testament to his artistic ability, is still audible. He sings in the car when they drive, in the correct mood and with great verses.
The tale of Randy Travis is one of tenacity, optimism, and the force of love. It reminds us that no matter what obstacles we encounter, we can return to what really matters if we have the love and support of our loved ones and a strong will.
As we honor Randy Travis’ unyielding spirit and timeless music, let’s keep him and his amazing journey in our prayers.
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