Fifteen years ago, my wife, Lisa, kissed our newborn son and left to buy diapers. But she never returned. Last week, I saw her alive and well in a supermarket. What happened next was something I’ll never forget.
I had spent the past 15 years searching for closure, raising my son Noah, and trying to make sense of Lisa’s disappearance. But nothing prepared me for the moment I saw her again.
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At first, I thought I was dreaming. But after observing for a few minutes, I knew it was her. She was older and looked different, but her gestures were still the same.
Before I share what happened next, let me take you back to when she suddenly disappeared.
It’s hard to describe what it feels like to lose someone without an explanation. One moment, they’re part of your life, and the next, they’re just gone.
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Fifteen years ago, Lisa kissed our newborn son, Noah, on the forehead, grabbed her purse, and told me she was heading out to buy diapers. She didn’t take her phone. She didn’t leave a note. She just vanished.
At first, I thought maybe something she got into an accident. I drove toward the supermarket and looked for her on my way. I even checked the dark alleys, but no sign of her.
When I couldn’t find anything, I called the police.
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I was hopeful when they began their investigation, but those feelings were replaced by sadness when the police told me there were no leads.
Her phone was off, and her bank accounts were untouched.
Eventually, the police stopped investigating, concluding she might have run away or met with some tragic fate.
They even suggested I move on, but how could I?
Lisa wasn’t just my wife. She was my best friend. I couldn’t reconcile the loving woman I knew with someone who would abandon her family.
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As a result, I cycled through every possibility. Maybe she was in trouble and couldn’t come back. Maybe she had run off with someone else.
But none of it made sense.
For years, I lived in a fog of anger and grief. I’d stay up at night, wondering where she was and why she left. Did she think I wasn’t good enough? Did she think Noah and I weren’t worth staying for?
On bad nights, I convinced myself she had died, and on worse nights, I hated her for leaving.
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But life doesn’t stop because you’re heartbroken, does it?
Back then, Noah needed me, and I had to pull myself together for his sake. It was difficult, but with my mother’s support, I learned how to change diapers and feed my baby. I even found the right way to make him burp.
As he grew up, I became a pro at packing lunches and was always there to help with homework. I became a father and a mother to him, balancing a full-time job with the demands of raising a child.
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Now, Noah is 15, tall, and lanky with a crooked grin that reminds me so much of Lisa. He’s the light of my life and the reason I keep going, even on days when I miss Lisa the most.
There were times when I imagined her walking back through the door, apologizing to me for being so late. It took me years to accept that my wife was never coming back. She was either dead or gone forever.
But that all changed when I saw her in the supermarket last week.
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I was in the frozen food aisle, deciding between two brands of waffles, when I saw her. At first, I thought my eyes were playing tricks on me.
The woman scanning a bag of frozen peas down the aisle looked exactly like Lisa. But that was impossible… wasn’t it?
I froze, staring at her like I’d just seen a ghost.
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Her hair was shorter, and a few strands of gray framed her face, but it was her. The way she stood and tilted her head to read the label was so familiar.
My heart skipped a beat as I realized what was happening.
Could it really be Lisa?
I doubted myself at first. Maybe I wanted to see her so badly that my mind was playing cruel tricks on me.
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So, I pushed my cart further down the aisle to get a closer look. That’s when she turned slightly and I saw her face fully.
It was her, and there was no mistaking it now.
I quickly abandoned my cart and walked toward her. I stood behind her and took a deep breath.
“Lisa?” I called out her name for the first time in years.
She paused for a moment and then turned around. At first, she just stared at me. Then, as recognition set in, her eyes widened in shock.
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“Bryan?” she whispered.
I couldn’t believe it was her.
After all these years, she was alive, standing right in front of me as if she’d never left. My mind raced with questions as I looked at her from head to toe.
“Lisa, what’s going on?” I finally managed to speak. “Why are you here? Where have you been all this time?”
Her lips parted as if she was about to say something, but she hesitated. She glanced around the aisle, clearly nervous.
“Bryan… I can explain,” she began. “But first, you have to forgive me.”
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I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Forgive her? For disappearing without a trace? For leaving me to raise our son alone?
“Forgive you?” I repeated. “Lisa, do you even realize what you’re asking? Do you know what these last 15 years have been like for me? For Noah?”
She looked down at the floor, avoiding my gaze. “I know. I know I hurt you both. But please, let me explain.”
“Explain,” I said sharply. “Now.”
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She took a deep breath and looked around nervously. “Not here,” she said softly, gesturing toward the front of the store. “Follow me.”
She led me to the parking lot, where a sleek black SUV was parked. It looked expensive, a far cry from the modest life we once shared.
Once we reached her car, she turned to face me, her eyes glistening with tears.
“I didn’t mean to hurt you,” she began. “I… I just couldn’t handle it.”
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“Handle what?” I snapped, my patience wearing thin. “Being a mother? Being a wife? Living the life we built together?”
“It wasn’t you, Bryan,” she cried. “It was me. I was scared. Scared of being a mother, of living paycheck to paycheck, of never giving Noah the life he deserved. I felt like I was drowning.”
“So, you thought the best solution was to abandon us?” I asked, my voice rising. “Do you have any idea what you put us through?”
Tears streamed down her face as she nodded.
“I know, and I hate myself for it. I thought I was doing the right thing. I told myself I’d come back when I had something to give.”
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“Where were you all these years?” I asked.
“I went to Europe,” she replied, unable to meet my gaze. “My parents helped me get away. They didn’t tell you because they thought you were holding me back. They never approved of our marriage. They didn’t like you.”
That’s when I started connecting the dots. Her parents barely helped me look after Noah after she left. They didn’t even keep in touch for long.
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“I changed my name, went back to school, and built a career,” she continued, her voice shaking. “I’m a business consultant now, and I returned to this town because I wanted to see you and Noah. I had no idea I’d bump into you at the supermarket. I—”
“You wanted to see us?” I repeated. “Really, Lisa? You think you can fix everything by returning to our lives?”
“I have the money Noah needs to live a fulfilled life, Bryan. I’ve got enough to give him everything he deserves.”
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I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t believe Lisa thought she could just waltz back into our lives with a bag of cash and a guilty conscience.
“You thought your money would fix everything?” I asked.
“No, I didn’t think it would fix everything, but I had to try. Please, Bryan. At least let me see Noah.”
“No,” I said firmly, stepping back. “You don’t get to disrupt his life after 15 years. You don’t get to rewrite the past because you finally decided to grow a conscience.”
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Her tears fell freely now, but I didn’t care. All I could think about were the nights I stayed up with a crying baby, the years I struggled to make ends meet, and the countless times Noah asked why his mother wasn’t there.
“I’m sorry,” she whispered, her voice breaking. “I didn’t know what else to do.”
“Well, I do,” I said, my voice cold. “Noah and I have moved on. We don’t need you anymore, Lisa.”
Without another word, I turned and walked away.
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She kept begging me to stop, but I was done. I couldn’t let her enter our lives and destroy everything.
Do you think I did the right thing? What would you have done if you were in my place?
“Stop Equating Thinness With Health and Happiness,” How Lena Dunham Inspires People to Fall in Love With Their Curves and Scars
There are so many things in the world that we may admire or even get inspired by, but there’s one main thing we may want to fall in love with before we start noticing the beauty of other things. It’s our own reflection in the mirror. Among all the numerous recipes for conjuring up self-love within ourselves, psychologists advise us to never compare ourselves to others and stop caring about other people’s opinions. Actress and producer Lena Dunham knows a lot about cultivating love for her own body despite all the criticism she faced, and she happily shares her journey with us all.
Lena Dunham doesn’t accept the term “body positivity,” and here’s why.
Actress and writer Lena Dunham has recently added another string to her bow and collaborated with the brand 11 Honoré to create a plus-size clothing collection. But the very term “plus size” frustrates Lena, and so is the term “body positivity.” In one of her Instagram posts, she explains that she feels more “body tolerant” than “body positive.”
In her interview, Dunham said, “The thing that’s complicated about the body-positive movement is it can be for the privileged few who have a body that looks the way people want to feel positive. We want curvy bodies that look like Kim Kardashian has been up-sized slightly. We want big beautiful butts and big beautiful breasts and no cellulite and faces that look like you could smack them onto thin women.”
Dunham has a very special relationship with her own body.
Dunhams path to self-love started with a decade-long journey with endometriosis. Since she started her own fight against it, she has been candidly sharing how it influenced both her emotional health and her relationship with her own body image. In her Instagram post, she emotionally described how she fluctuated between loving her body and the opposite.
She wrote, “Ya know when you’re home alone, and you realize you’d be happier in a hot lil’ onesie than your ketchup and cat food stained pajamas? And it’s not about a boy or a photo shoot or a weight loss before-and-after, it’s just for the feeling of glee you get from dressing your one and only corporeal form in pleasing fabrics, the unique pleasure of admiring the twists and turns of the body that loves the heck out of you even when you don’t love it.”
Dunham is powerfully addressing all people who come to her page with criticism.
In 2021, Dunham tied the knot with musician Luis Felber. It was such a darling event for her that she wore 3 wedding dresses to marry her love and shared the photos on her Instagram. However, she started getting some “gnarly” comments in her feed from people who commented on her body and appearance. The actress didn’t hesitate for a minute to address them with a powerful message.
She wrote, “One narrative I take issue with, largely because it’s a story I don’t want other women, other people, to get lodged in their heads, is that I should somehow be criticized because my body has changed since I was last on television. […] But lastly, when will we learn to stop equating thinness with health/happiness?”
Dunham’s powerful message can be echoed in the hearts of many.
For all people who have ever hesitated about embracing their body image, Dunham has some simple yet wise advice. She says, “Of course weight loss can be the result of positive change in habits, but guess what? So can weight gain. The pics I’m being compared to are from when I was with an undiagnosed illness. In the last 4 years, I’ve begun my life as someone who aspires toward health and not just achievement.
These changes have allowed me to be the kind of sister/friend/daughter that I want to be and yes — meet my husband (who, by the way, doesn’t recognize me in those old photos because he sees how dimmed my light was). I say this for any other person whose appearance has been changed with time, illness, or circumstance — it’s okay to live in your present body without treating it as transitional. I am, and I’m really enjoying it. Love you all.”
Do you find Lena Dunham’s example inspiring? What do you love the most about your appearance?
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