I’ve always been a patient person. I got to practice my patience when my father remarried following my mom’s death. So, when my in-laws tried to get me to break up with my husband before we could get married, I just used what I had learned earlier in life to withstand their onslaught.
You know, sometimes trying to find your place in someone else’s family can be really tricky. At least, it was for me when I met my husband’s family. See, I’m originally from Morocco, while my husband, Jeremy, was raised by an extremely conservative family from Georgia. That should be enough to give you an idea of what I faced.
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I immigrated to the US shortly after my mother passed away. I was 11 at the time, and it felt like my entire world was coming to an end. To add to this, my dad married a new woman only a little over a year after Mom’s death. Naturally, adjusting to life in a new country and coming to terms that there was a new woman in my mom’s place was jarring.
My stepmom wasn’t a bad person, but we never got along. I think she felt insecure about the fact that she could never have kids, so she would often be mean and distant toward my sister and me. She used to try to upset us all the time by doing petty things that she knew would make us uncomfortable, but luckily my mom had taught me to always smile when people were intentionally being mean to me.
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This turned out to be a great defense mechanism, and my stepmom couldn’t bear that her tricks weren’t working on me. Eventually, things died down and we made our peace, but I would never forget how effective it was to just smile through whatever petty new ploy she had devised to try and upset me. It truly was one of the greatest gifts my mom had ever given me.
But my stepmom was a minor hindrance compared to Jeremy’s family. When I met them for the first time, I knew I was in for a lengthy cold war.
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I met Leona, Jeremy’s mom, and the rest of the Fergus family at one of their family dinners. By that time, I had been dating Jeremy for almost a year, and they had used every excuse to avoid inviting me to their dinners. This time, Jeremy ensured that they couldn’t weasel out of meeting me, and he even told his mom to prepare a few dishes that I could eat, since I steer clear of any pork and alcohol.
While my loving boyfriend was sure there would be something for me, I knew better than to just blindly trust people who clearly had misgivings about me to respect my personal choices, so I ate as I would before a fast and prepared myself for sitting around the dinner table while everyone enjoyed their meal.
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When we showed up at Jeremy’s parents’ house, the family greeted me with half-hearted smiles and quick hugs before we all settled down to eat. I knew the greetings would be awkward and stiff, but what I didn’t anticipate was Leona bringing a peppy blonde woman up to me with a huge smile and saying, “Oh, Aleah, you just have to meet Diane, Jeremy’s last girlfriend. We’re all still very close and I thought you two might hit it off.”
Diane looked slightly embarrassed, and shook my hand with a smile that seemed to say, “I’m sorry, I know, but what could I do?” I introduced myself and we exchanged a few pleasantries before she greeted Jeremy with a huge hug. She immediately launched into a conversation with him about what was going on in his life, ignoring me completely. Jeremy answered a few questions, grabbed my hand, and steered me to our seats.
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At the table, things just got worse. Leona opened all the dishes, and every single thing had pork in it. The mac and cheese had bacon bits in, the mashed potatoes had lard in, and even the turkey was wrapped in bacon. After unveiling all the food, Jeremy’s mom looked at me, apologized for all the pork, and offered me a drink. “I don’t drink, but I’ll gladly take a glass of water,” I said with a smile. Slightly crestfallen, Leona got up to get me one.
During the meal, the entire family kept making off-handed, passive-aggressive, and slightly racist comments clearly directed toward me. Meanwhile, Diane was showered with compliments. You’d expect she was royalty with how the family sucked up to her. But I knew exactly how to handle the situation.
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Instead of letting my annoyance show, I once again employed my mom’s wisdom. I smiled at every so-called joke, and even threw a few of my own compliments at Diane. I told Leona how lovely the spread looked, and thanked her profusely when she went to refill my cup of water. I could see Jeremy’s mom seething at my pleasant demeanor.
The night ended and we said our goodbyes. I refrained from complaining to Jeremy about his family. I could handle it. But things didn’t get better from there. Family dinners were suddenly off-limits to anyone who wasn’t also a Fergus — although Diane was apparently an exception — so I would often spend Christmas on my own or with my sister. They never drove a wedge between myself and Jeremy, and imagine their shock when he eventually proposed.
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Now, Leona and the rest of the family never bothered to learn anything about my culture. They assumed the wedding would be a regular ceremony, but Jeremy and I had planned on blending traditions. So when all the women, Diane included, showed up wearing white, I was all smiles, complimenting their outfits all the way. This didn’t go down well.
Meanwhile, my outfits were made up of every color imaginable, and I outshone them in every photo. There’s even one picture of Leona with the biggest sour expression I had ever seen. It was a wonderful day.
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But the unspoken feud came to a head last Christmas when Leona suggested I host. Naturally, I accepted, even though I knew she only offered because she hoped I would be overwhelmed. Fortunately, she didn’t count on the fact that I often cooked, and had been since I was a young girl. So my spread was something to marvel at.
Mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, turkey, glazed ham, Brussels sprouts, green bean casserole, roasted carrots, and potatoes, freshly baked bread, corn bread, and an entire assortment of pies. Even I was impressed. But of course, with her plan in ruins, Leona did the next best thing. She started shouting at me.
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“You’ve got to be kidding me! How could you of all people have managed this?! I know you hired a catering company, Aleah! Just to make me look bad. Admit it!”
Surprised at her outright anger, I looked at her, then at Jeremy. Luckily he stepped in.
“Mom, Aleah slaved away for two days to make sure we had a great Christmas dinner. I don’t think you acting like this is very mature or fair. She has been nothing but a good host, and you accuse her of being petty, like a child who had hoped to one-up someone. I think you owe her an apology, or you should leave.”
There was a long pause. Everyone wondered what would happen next, plates in hand.
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Leona took a deep breath and looked at me. “You won,” she muttered and sat down dejectedly. Before Jeremy could say another word, I walked over to my mother-in-law, got on my knees before her, and took her hands in mine. “Leona, this isn’t a competition. I love your son deeply and I don’t want this cold war between us.”
She looked at me with new-found respect, and I could see the hatchet was buried. The war between us ended with a big hug and a great dinner, and although we still differ about things, we have grown quite fond of each other over the last few months.
Meet Jyoti, Who, at the Age of 30 and Standing at 63 cm Tall, Successfully Made Her Mark in Hollywood
Jyoti Amge grew up like any ordinary child, but at some point, her growth stopped. Now 30 years old, she stands at 63 cm tall. Jyoti earned the title of the world’s smallest woman and later ventured into Hollywood, proving to everyone that a diminutive stature is not a hindrance on the path to one’s dreams.
Her childhood
On December 16, 1993, Jyoti Kisanji Amge was born in Maharashtra, India. Jyoti’s mother, Ranjana, claims that she was a normal size at birth and in her early years of childhood. Jyoti’s growth actually stopped when she turned 5 and hasn’t changed since — aside from that, she’s continued to attend school with her average-sized peers.
“She learned to walk on time, her teeth grew in on time, she learned to feed herself on time, she was a regular child for a while,” explained her mother,
Jyoti has never thought of her size as an obstacle, thanks to her family’s unwavering support. Whenever they are together, her family commonly carries her around, so she can see the world from their point of view. In fact, despite the difficulties that came with persisting in her education, her sister used to carry her around college, and that helped Jyoti finish her studies and graduate.
But Jyoti hasn’t always felt this way about her condition. “When she was not this famous, people used to tease her and make fun of her. She used to feel very dejected then,” her father spoke up. Jyoti’s perseverance and zeal mainly stem from her family, who have always backed her and supported her to continue on.
The small size of Jyoti Amge prevents her from doing most things independently. “’I can’t go anywhere by my own choice,” said Amge, who relies on family members to assist her in daily tasks. “I can’t turn on the tap, can’t open the door, can’t go to the bathroom unless someone takes me, and every time I go out, I have to be carried,” she added.
Fortunately, her condition doesn’t severely restrict her mobility or lifestyle, allowing her to lead as normal a life as possible.
The cause of her stunted growth
“Doctors think the reason behind my height not increasing is a deficiency of growth hormones.” Her condition was later determined to be caused by achondroplasia, a type of dwarfism that prevents her from growing taller than a certain height.
A Guinness World Record girl
“She may be the shortest living woman, but Jyoti Amge is one of the biggest personalities we have in the Guinness World Records universe.” Jyoti officially became the shortest woman alive (mobile) after turning 18, and achieving this record has improved her self-esteem. She has said, “I feel well-liked, special, and important.”
“Measured by a doctor, she was just 61.95 cm (2 ft) tall, confirming her as the shortest living teenager (female). Remarkably, at just 5.4 kg, she weighed only 4 kg more than her birth weight,” the Guinness World Records claimed. Everything she uses or wears, like her accessories, cutlery, and plates, needs to be customized for her. Jyoti, on the other hand, puts a lot of effort into making the most of each situation and her exceptional stature.
In 2012, Jyoti Amge met the World’s Tallest Man, Sultan Kosen, and she posed with him for the 57th edition of the Guinness World Records.
“When I met the world’s tallest man, I was a little shocked,” she claimed in an interview, “I was thinking how can be someone so tall, and he was astonished to see me as well, but we are now very good friends.”
Her success and her acting dream
In 2012, Jyoti Amge met the World’s Tallest Man, Sultan Kosen, and she posed with him for the 57th edition of the Guinness World Records.
“When I met the world’s tallest man, I was a little shocked,” she claimed in an interview, “I was thinking how can be someone so tall, and he was astonished to see me as well, but we are now very good friends.”
Her success and her acting dream
Although GWR’s recognition was crucial in helping her achieve success abroad, Jyoti has been making more efforts to realize her dreams and disprove those who think a girl of her stature can’t succeed in life.
Besides pursuing her career, Jyoti hopes to be a role model for anyone who lacks self-confidence. She hopes to inspire others to not let their differences impede their life plans. “To people like me: if you keep trying, you will definitely achieve all of your dreams.”
Here is the story of the tallest woman in the world, with a height of 215 cm. Despite the challenges that her height presents, she remains undaunted and lives her best life.
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