For someone who was called “fatso” and had no intention of becoming a famous Hollywood star, this actress has certainly made a name for herself. After her breakout role, she garnered so much attention that she earned a special accolade.
This actress once revealed that her mother never wanted a daughter, and she grew up sheltered because of her strict father. Despite being bullied and called ugly, she eventually found peace and married the love of her life.
What was Her Childhood like?
In her memoir, “This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,” the actress wrote about her childhood and mother, who she confirmed during an interview in 2017 still sang in subways.
The actress’ mother had been a teacher at her school until the fourth grade. Originally from the southern state of Georgia, her mom then took a sabbatical and started singing in the subway.
Her mother realized she could make more money performing than working for the Board of Education and decided to stick with it. The celebrity recalled her mother taking her and her brother to the subway, where she would sing for around five hours.
The actress remembered sitting on a bench within eyesight or earshot, doing her homework or reading books. Her mother performed at New York City’s Penn Station while she wandered around the station or visited a nearby bookstore.
At the bookstore, she was allowed to pull books off the shelves and read without paying. She suspected they permitted this because they knew her mother. Every now and then, she’d ask her mother for money to buy a new “Clue” book or the latest “Nancy Drew.”
Her mother always gave her the money, encouraging her to focus on reading. On the other hand, her father was very strict. He was from Senegal, studied architecture in France, and later became a cab driver when he moved to New York.
The actress shared that both her parents spanked her growing up, but she rejected labeling it as abuse, even when directly challenged. She emphasized that people often interpret others’ experiences through their own lens.
For her, spanking was a culturally rooted form of discipline common in communities of color, not an act of cruelty. She explained that her father’s upbringing in Africa, where safety and community were stable, shaped his beliefs about discipline.
After moving to Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn—a much more dangerous environment—he felt strong discipline was necessary to protect his children. Although it took years for father and daughter to fully understand each other, she never considered him abusive, especially seeing how relaxed he became with his younger children later.
She recalled a tender memory of her father carefully granting her small bits of independence, such as letting her fetch the mail while he watched closely from the doorway.
He would warn her against using the staircase, fearing for her safety, and waited to hear her shout from the elevator when she entered it out of his view. Ironically, her brother, who was only 11 months older, had far more independence. Unfortunately, part of her childhood also involved bullying.
Life’s Harsh Realities
When she turned six, the actress, who was raised in Harlem, started noticing what other children said about her. She spoke about the bullying she endured at that age regarding her weight, “You know, it’s, like, that weird thing where, like, I realize this thing about myself – I’m not magic, so now I have to pick you apart. And I have to pick myself apart.”
The star added, “And I think that was the age where people started calling me Fatso and you-this and you-that, blah, blah blah. That’s what helped me to notice.” In her book, she wrote about praying in the fourth grade for God to make her less sensitive because of how badly she was mocked.
At that time, her parents’ marriage was crumbling; they separated when she was 12, leaving her feeling “unhinged.” She recalled crying for hours and experiencing tightness in her chest when someone said something hurtful.
Panic attacks made breathing difficult, and she sometimes felt like she might die. Noticing that she could cry for up to three hours during school, she began praying about her sensitivity, unaware she was dealing with a medical condition.
The actress battled depression and anxiety unnoticed throughout elementary and junior high school. The issues persisted into high school, with the panic attacks intensifying during her commute to school.
After transferring schools, her struggles worsened, and she realized her issues were not just about being bullied for her weight. She eventually sought medical help and spoke about her struggles.
The actress on “Saturday Night Live” on April 24, 2010 | Source: Getty Images
Another painful memory was the rejection she felt from her mother. She recalled, “My mom always told me that she never wanted to have a daughter.” The star acknowledged how harsh that sounded but explained it prepared her for understanding that “being a Black woman was not going to be easy. That’s what my mom told me.”
Her mother believed having a daughter was hard because girls lead difficult lives. The actress said, “Those were the first lessons I got about being a Black woman. Today, as an adult, I would really like to erase that narrative from my life.” Despite these challenges, stardom found her.
The star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
Becoming an Actress and Getting Hate
By 2010, the actress had become a well-known celebrity, staying in luxurious hotel suites for interviews. That year, she was based in the UK for the London Film Festival. She confessed that she hadn’t planned for the life she now had.
Just two years earlier, at 24, she was working as a receptionist to support her psychology studies in college when she auditioned for a film on a whim. She had just enrolled for her third year when she auditioned. Her resume listed only three minor college theater roles, yet she secured the lead role in “Precious.”
Andy Samberg and his co-star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
She canceled her classes to star in the film, which became a breakout hit at Sundance in early 2009. The movie received three Golden Globe nominations, including Best Actress for Gabourey Sidibe, along with an Academy Award nomination.
After her nomination, a famous radio host went on air, claiming it was an anomaly. He alleged that Sidibe’s Hollywood peers were only “pretending” she was one of them and said she would never act again because of her weight.
Kristen Wiig and Gabourey Sidibe on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
The star shared that she had never dreamed of becoming an actress and felt overwhelmed by the film’s success. She explained that she has a neutral accent, stating, “I don’t have what we call the blackccent.”
However, despite no formal acting training, she recognized that her character would have an accent, so she deepened her voice to fit the role. Part of her Hollywood success came from her hustle and hard work.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Our Idiot Brother” screening in New York on August 22, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Despite two psychics predicting fame for her, Sidibe never believed she would gain the same recognition as her Hollywood idols. Today, she excels both in front of and behind the camera, although her journey also included a significant decision regarding her health.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Win Win” screening party in New York on March 16, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Going Under the Knife
In May 2016, after enduring bullying and struggling with weight loss, Sidibe underwent laparoscopic bariatric surgery. She made the decision after she and her brother were diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes.
The actress did the procedure because she didn’t want to worry about the effects that come with having diabetes. She explained, “I genuinely [would] worry all the time about losing my toes.”
Gabourey Sidibe at the 13th premiere and after party of the New York Film Festival Opening Night Gala on September 30, 2016 | Source: Getty Images
Sidibe expressed frustration that people assumed they cared more about her health than she did. “But I care more than anybody really knows. Of course I care. It’s been my body my whole life, and I didn’t want to be afraid anymore. And I’ve been feeling like that for some time,” she said.
Even after surgery, she continued to obsess over her body, eating habits, and weight. However, she learned to trust herself and embraced the mantra “faith over fear,” understanding that her decisions were personal.
Gabourey Sidibe at the 27th Annual Beat the Odds ceremony in Los Angeles on December 7, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Initially, she weighed herself five or six times daily, tracking natural fluctuations. Eventually, she stopped that behavior and now weighs herself every two weeks or whenever she feels the need.
For the first 17 days post-surgery, Sidibe consumed only liquids and became depressed. However, by 2017, she was following meal plans, eating five times a day, cooking, consulting her nutritionist, and using apps to log her meals.
Gabourey Sidibe at the NAACP Image Awards in Los Angeles on February 11, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
She also became more active, using her Apple Watch to track her movements. The actress had tricycles both at her Los Angeles home and on set in Chicago, riding them during lunch breaks.
She revealed that she felt stronger, more mobile, and no longer feared losing her toes. After her breakout role in “Precious,” she was featured in People magazine’s World’s Most Beautiful issue, an honor she called “really dope!”
Gabourey Sidibe at the Variety Cannes Lions Studio at the Cannes Lions Festival in France on June 21, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Still, Sidibe acknowledged that she likely would not have been included if she weren’t an actress. She pointed out that such lists typically feature celebrities, not regular people.
While she believes she’s beautiful—crediting her parents for her features—she often doubts whether others genuinely see her that way. “Other than my very obvious beautiful [expletive] features, like my cheekbones, my skin-tone? Get out of here. Gorgeous!” she said, affirming her self-worth with humor.
The actress admitted that she spent much of her life hearing she was ugly, both from outsiders and within her own community. Even after being named one of the Most Beautiful at 26, internalizing that recognition was difficult.
Decades of negative conditioning weren’t easily undone, even by career success. Though she now believes in her own beauty, she remains skeptical of outside praise.
“Yeah, I’m beautiful, but I’m not convinced that you’re convinced of that,” she said. Sidibe described her beauty as something deeply personal: “My beauty is like my own secret in this way.” She explained that maintaining confidence is a daily practice, not a permanent achievement.
Confidence, for her, is like applying lipstick—it needs daily renewal. High heels, a good hairstyle, intelligence, friends, and humor all contribute to her sense of self-worth. For Sidibe, confidence isn’t automatic; it’s something she cultivates consciously. Despite her size, she enjoys photo shoots and embraces her body.
Accepting Herself and Fighting for Others
Sidibe once said about photo shoots, “I feel like a model. It justifies everyone in my life who told me I wouldn’t be anything until I lost weight.” It also justified the little girl who cried, thinking she didn’t belong in front of a camera.
However, reaching that confidence took time, only happening around age 21. She recalled becoming tired of letting others define her worth. Lee Daniels, the director of “Precious,” had high praise for her.
He said, “[Gabby] may be in a state of denial or on a higher plane than the rest of us, but either way, she breaks your heart in the movie.” Responding to his comment, she stated, “I was like, ‘What the hell? I’m in denial?’ No, I know what I look like. I’m very much aware.”
When asked where her confidence came from, she explained, “It came from me.” She added, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”
Sidibe said what helps her is wearing the colors she loves and the makeup that makes her feel pretty. Advising others struggling with self-image, she said, “It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”
In 2021, she partnered with the Child Mind Institute and its May Mental Health Awareness campaign. Her own struggles with depression inspired her to work alongside the nonprofit organization to launch Getting Better Together.
The star revealed that she was 19 or 20 when she was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder. In a video, the actress shared, “I remember having almost no one, really, to turn to. I couldn’t talk about it with my parents, or my friends or my friend’s parents. Everyone would tell me I was too young, too young to feel sad all the time or too young to feel stressed out.”
She explained how people around her tried to convince her that she wasn’t feeling what she felt. Fortunately, her instincts, which told her something was wrong, were louder, and she managed to save herself.
However, she recognized that not everyone had the ability to do the same or even to recognize that they needed help. That realization inspired her to start the Getting Better Together initiative. She urged, “If you or a young person you know is struggling, please go to ChildMind.org for resources and help.” Since then, she’s gotten married and welcomed children.
Celebrating Love and Growth
Gabourey Sidibe has since married Brandon Frankel, and together they share two children. In April 2025, the couple uploaded various images of their twins, Cooper and Maya, as they celebrated their first birthday.
The proud parents reflected on a full year filled with love and laughter. They described the twins as hilarious, sweet, and remarkably well-behaved. From walking and talking to dancing, hugging, and even demanding songs or calling every animal “CAT!”, the little ones have blossomed into vibrant mini humans.
Their parents expressed feeling honored to watch them grow and excited for all the learning and discovery ahead.
“We LOVE being your parents—the best is yet to come!” they wrote in a heartfelt celebration of the milestone.
The month before, the couple celebrated their wedding anniversary with help from Brides magazine.
For their fourth anniversary, they graced the magazine’s cover in 2022, and the publication honored them by inviting readers to revisit their love story through a special link in their bio.
Colegas de classe zombam de garoto pobre por morar em trailer até vê-lo se mudando para uma cobertura — História do dia
Desde cedo, Sam aprendeu a manter a cabeça baixa e permanecer humilde. Ele nunca deixou os valentões da escola o deprimirem. Mas quando sua sorte muda para melhor, ele conseguiria manter seu coração puro?
Sam passou a infância fazendo limonada com limões. Seu pai faleceu quando ele ainda era um bebê. Desde então, ele ajudou sua mãe, Susan, a ganhar um dinheiro extra quando ele tinha folga da escola. Sam e Susan moravam em um parque de trailers porque não tinham dinheiro para comprar um apartamento ou uma casa.
Susan mal ganhava dinheiro suficiente para manter as luzes acesas e pagar as mensalidades escolares de Sam, pois ela era autista e lutava para encontrar um emprego estável. “Podemos não ter muito, mas sempre sejamos gratos pelo pouco que temos”, Susan dizia ao filho.
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Na sala de aula, Sam era constantemente provocado. Os valentões da escola frequentemente o chamavam de nomes como “vagabundo” e “garoto falido”. Um valentão em particular, Jared, uma vez lhe disse: “Pessoas como você sempre ficarão presas vivendo em trailers”.
Sam nunca deixou que os insultos o derrubassem, pois sua mãe lhe ensinou que ele precisa ter pele grossa para sobreviver. Ele ainda sonhava em um dia possuir uma mansão para si e sua mãe.
Um dia, o senhorio deles, Tobey, veio cobrar o aluguel. Tobey também trabalhava como corretor imobiliário na área e tinha cartazes espalhados pela cidade. Durante a visita de Tobey, uma tempestade enorme atingiu a cidade, e ele tentou correr para casa, mas seu carro não pegava.
“Meu padrasto me ensinou que nunca encontrarei a felicidade se houver amargura em meu coração.”
“Não se preocupe, senhor. Vou olhar embaixo do capô e ver o que há de errado”, disse Sam. Sam era bem habilidoso e sabia consertar qualquer coisa que tivesse motor. Um de seus trabalhos de fim de semana era ajudar um mecânico na cidade. Em menos de uma hora, Sam consertou o carro de Tobey.
“Obrigado, garoto. Nunca vi ninguém consertar um motor na chuva antes”, disse Tobey. “Sem problemas, senhor. Mas você pode querer levá-lo para uma revisão”, respondeu Sam. Tobey ficou impressionado com a esperteza de Sam e ofereceu a ele um trabalho paralelo de lavar seu carro a cada duas semanas.
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Sam aceitou e, com o tempo, desenvolveu um bom relacionamento com Tobey, que ele via como uma figura paterna. Sempre que Tobey levava seu carro para lavar, ele passava um tempo com Susan enquanto Sam estava ocupado. Ele logo descobriu que ela tinha uma coleção de desenhos notáveis da cidade e rostos reconhecíveis.
Tobey perguntou se ela trabalhava como artista. “Não, eu só desenho coisas de memória”, respondeu Susan. Susan descobriu que Tobey também tinha ficado viúvo alguns anos antes, e os dois desenvolveram sentimentos um pelo outro. Tobey ajudou Susan a abrir um pequeno estúdio de arte, e ela começou a vender suas obras de arte.
Um dia, Jared notou que Sam estava ausente da escola. Ele sugeriu aos amigos que fizessem uma visita a Sam.
“Vamos ver o que o garoto falido está aprontando em sua cabana destruída”, brincou Jared.
Quando chegaram perto do trailer de Sam, viram que ele e a mãe estavam colocando caixas em um SUV chique. Perceberam que ele estava se mudando e ficaram curiosos.
Quando Sam, Susan e Tobey foram embora, Jared e seus amigos tentaram segui-los. O SUV era rápido demais para eles acompanharem em suas motos, e eles logo perderam o rastro.
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No dia seguinte, Jared e seus amigos seguiram Sam depois da escola para ver para onde ele tinha se mudado. Acontece que Sam tinha se mudado para um complexo de apartamentos de luxo. Mais tarde naquela tarde, Jared viu que a mãe de Sam estava de mãos dadas com Tobey. Jared reconheceu Tobey dos cartazes espalhados pela cidade.
“Caramba, a mãe do Sam está namorando o corretor imobiliário!” Jared disse aos amigos. Eles não conseguiam acreditar que o mesmo garoto que eles vinham provocando há anos por ser pobre tinha se mudado para uma cobertura chique. O que eles acharam ainda mais estranho foi que Sam não se gabava disso. Era como se nada tivesse mudado.
“Eu era um verdadeiro sujeito desprezível naquela época, mas a vida fez um bom trabalho em me humilhar desde então.”
Daquele dia em diante, Jared nunca mais provocou Sam.
10 anos depois, Jared recebeu um convite pelo correio. “Você está cordialmente convidado para uma festa muito especial de 10º aniversário…”, dizia. Jared podia ver que a festa estava sendo realizada em um apartamento de cobertura, e o nome no convite parecia familiar.
Quando ele chegou, ficou surpreso ao ver que Sam tinha organizado o evento inteiro. Tudo foi providenciado, de bebidas a comida, e todos os colegas de classe de Sam e Jared estavam presentes. Todos estavam curiosos sobre como Sam vivia em um apartamento tão luxuoso e o que ele fazia para trabalhar.
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Jared decidiu falar com ele para se desculpar pela forma como o tratou no ensino médio.
“Escuta, cara. Sinto muito mesmo por como eu costumava intimidar na escola. Não era legal. Eu era um verdadeiro pedaço de trabalho naquela época, mas a vida fez um bom trabalho em me humilhar desde então”, Jared admitiu para Sam.
Jared disse a Sam que sentiu que o karma o havia alcançado porque ele acabou morando no mesmo parque de trailers onde Sam costumava morar. Sam foi gentil com Jared e o perdoou pelo tratamento que recebeu na escola.
“Sei que os tempos estão difíceis para você agora, mas vou lhe contar algo que minha mãe me disse uma vez. Você pode não ter muito, mas seja sempre grato pelo pouco que tem”, Sam disse a ele. Alguns dos antigos colegas de classe de Sam perguntaram como ele conseguia pagar por um lugar tão bom.
Sam revelou que Tobey lhe ensinou os meandros da venda de imóveis de luxo e que ele havia assumido a empresa de seu padrasto. “Meu padrasto me ensinou uma lição valiosa muitos anos atrás. Ele me disse que eu nunca encontraria a felicidade se houvesse amargura em meu coração”, disse Sam.
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Ele então revelou que ele e sua mãe atrasaram o aluguel várias vezes antes de Tobey se apaixonar por Susan. Em vez de expulsá-los, Tobey deu a eles várias oportunidades de pagar o aluguel.
Graças ao seu coração bondoso, Sam e Susan nunca ficaram completamente sem teto. Logo, Tobey e Susan se casaram e se tornaram uma família inseparável.
Todos os colegas de Sam o parabenizaram pelo seu sucesso e disseram que ele era o orgulho de toda a escola.
O que podemos aprender com essa história?
- Nunca deixe a negatividade te derrubar. Sam não permitiu que Jared o derrubasse na escola. Ele permaneceu humilde e gentil, e um dia, Jared aprendeu com seus erros.
- Um pouco de gentileza faz toda a diferença. O simples gesto gentil de Sam para Tobey acabou mudando a vida dele e de sua mãe.
Compartilhe esta história com seus amigos. Pode alegrar o dia deles e inspirá-los.
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