I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
WНЕN ТНЕ VЕТЕRINАRIАN SЕЕS ТНЕ ULТRАSОUND, НЕ САLLS ТНЕ РОLIСЕ: WНY?
When farmer Ben saw that his mare was pregnant, he was filled with joy. This meant he would have another horse,which could lead to greater financial wealth if it turned out to be a good horse. After waiting for months, the moment was almost here.
The belly was swollen, and the mare showed signs of being about to give birth. But strangely, she refused to deliver even with a huge belly. Ben decided to go to the local vet to get an ultrasound.
When the vet saw the ultrasound, he immediately called the police. But what was wrong with the mare? And what had Ben done wrong? Let’s uncover this curious case.
As the police also lived in this small town, any action was considered good action. There really wasn’t much to do here; everyone knew each other, and crime was quite low.
In fact, the local police department had practically nothing to do during the day, as there wasn’t much law enforcement to handle, so it was as exciting as any other case.
When the police finally arrived, they helped the vet calm the almost lifeless giant horse. But the police not only assisted the vet; they also came to talk to Ben. “Sir, we need you to come with us, it’s important.”
Ben was in sh.ock. He had only asked the vet to come and help his mare give birth. What had he done wrong? Horse births should be a fairly straightforward process.
Horses often give birth without assistance, and foals usually come out of their mothers already knowing how to walk and gallop despite being born just minutes earlier. Truly, horses are one of the easiest animals to assist in giving birth, and Ben knew it.
Ben answered questions about himself and the mare he had owned since his youth. When he answered all the questions, he heard disbelief coming from the operating room. “I can’t believe it!” said the vet.
But what had the vet found inside the horse that surprised him so much? What left them stunned?
The average conception rate (with artificial insemination) is around 60%, indicating that getting 90% of mares pregnant generally takes two or three cycles.
You’ve already doubled or tripled your veterinary expenses just trying to get your mare pregnant at this rate. Getting a mare pregnant takes a lot of work, making this occasion stressful for Ben.
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