I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Young girl thought she found a lizard in the forest: When the vet sees it, he screams: “Stand back!”
In a remarkable twist of fate, a young girl stumbled upon a rare and endangered lizard in the depths of the forest, setting off an unprecedented chain of events that ultimately led to the preservation of an entire species. Millie, an avid lover of nature, stumbled upon the elusive black lizard during one of her solitary explorations in the woods. Initially hesitant, she couldn’t bear to leave the creature behind after noticing its ailing condition, prompting her to take it home for urgent veterinary care.
However, the veterinarian’s reaction upon seeing the lizard was nothing short of alarming, leaving Millie and her father bewildered and anxious. The vet’s sense of urgency, coupled with a subsequent phone call, hinted at the gravity of the situation, sparking fears of losing this precious creature. After an agonizing wait, the veterinarian returned with dire news: not only was the lizard incredibly rare, but it also belonged to a species teetering on the brink of extinction.
The lizard had managed to escape from a breeding program aimed at bolstering its dwindling population. Millie’s unexpected encounter and compassionate act of rescue inadvertently achieved a vital objective, ensuring the survival of an entire species. The veterinarian’s disclosure underscored the lizard’s pivotal role in conservation endeavors, underscoring the significance of Millie’s actions.
Though initially disheartened at the thought of parting ways with their newfound friend, Millie and her family acknowledged the lizard’s greater purpose. Their willingness to collaborate with authorities yielded promises of assistance, including educational opportunities and financial support.
This inspiring narrative serves as a poignant reminder of the potency of empathy and the profound influence that individual deeds can wield in wildlife preservation. Millie’s unwitting role in saving a species underscores the imperative of environmental stewardship and the potential for positive transformation, even amidst the most unexpected circumstances.
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