According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Jim Caviezel Takes a Stand and Refuses to Work with Robert De Niro, Calling It “Awful and Ungodly
Jim Caviezel, an actor, gained notoriety when he refused to collaborate with the well-known actor Robert De Niro, referring to him as a “awful, ungodly man.” Discussions concerning how to strike a balance between one’s personal convictions and one’s business ties have been sparked by this surprising attitude in Hollywood.
This article delves into the particulars of Caviezel’s audacious choice, the motivations behind his rejection of working with De Niro, and the wider ramifications of such candid remarks in the film business. Jim Caviezel is renowned for his unwavering moral standards and strong Christian beliefs. He is best known for playing Jesus Christ in Mel Gibson’s “The Passion of the Christ.”
However, the renowned actor Robert De Niro is praised for his wide range of roles and open views on a wide range of social and political topics. Caviezel’s unwillingness to work with De Niro highlights a tension between one’s moral principles and the collaborative nature of filmmaking.
Caviezel was questioned about possible partnerships with De Niro in a recent interview. He said, “I won’t work with Robert De Niro,” with great emphasis. He is an awful, immoral individual.
His statement’s forceful wording attracted the attention of fans and the media right once, raising concerns about the details of the purported falling out between the two stars. Caviezel refrained from providing specifics throughout the conversation, but it is clear that his choice is the result of a fundamental conflict of values.
Caviezel seems to feel that there is a difference between De Niro’s public image and his previous deeds, as evidenced by his strong Christian convictions and dedication to enterprises that share his moral principles.
Caviezel’s remark was vague, which sparked rumors and increased curiosity among the general public about the underlying dynamics. In the entertainment industry, performers frequently express their thoughts on a range of topics, including their decision to avoid working with particular people.
Reactions to Caviezel’s audacious declaration, though, have been divided. Some praise him for being true to his beliefs, seeing it as an uncommon display of integrity in a field that is sometimes criticized for its moral slackness. Some argue that releasing such declarations in public is a bad idea because it can restrict one’s options for a future job and maintain divisions within the profession.
The fact that Caviezel declined to collaborate with De Niro raises more questions about how performers deal with their personal convictions in the collaborative, sometimes divisive world of Hollywood. Though traditionally varied viewpoints and expressions have been beneficial to the trade, there is a growing trend of performers imposing limitations because of their personal beliefs.
This episode illustrates how Hollywood is changing and how people are prepared to stick to their morals even when it means jeopardizing their careers. There have been instances in the entertainment business where an actor’s public remarks have helped or hurt their career. The fact that Caviezel declined to collaborate with De Niro might strike a chord with like-minded people who respect his unyielding adherence to his convictions.
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