We often underestimate how significant our actions can be to others on any given day. Since we spend so much time focusing on our own lives, it’s easy to overlook the impact we can have on those around us. This is why it’s crucial to always practice kindness; compassion and goodwill are timeless virtues that play an essential role in our communities.
In 2017, Joyce Rhinehart was out for ice cream with her grandson when she noticed a family sitting nearby. They were also enjoying ice cream, and she felt a spontaneous urge to capture their moment.
In a subsequent Facebook post, Joyce recounted: “On June 8th, I was treating my grandson Blake to Rita’s Italian Ice after his tennis lesson. As we were about to leave, I saw a lovely family on a bench relishing custard cones. Something inspired me to ask if I could take their picture…”
Joyce took the photo and handed her phone to the young girl, encouraging her to text it to their family. Afterward, she explained to Blake that she often does this for families she sees sharing sweet moments, usually during her vacations.
Days later, while relaxing on her patio, Joyce received a message from an unfamiliar number. “This is what the message said”, Joyce shared.
“Dear madam, you took our picture in front of Rita’s on June 8th. My wife passed away yesterday, and this is the last photo we have as a family. I’m deeply grateful for your kindness; it means the world to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.” Joyce later exchanged several messages with the man, learning that his wife had been ill for the past year.
“My heart aches for this family I don’t even know, and I’m in awe of the tremendous gift left to them simply because I listened to my instincts that day”, Joyce reflected. This touching act of kindness serves as a reminder that we should never underestimate the profound impact even a small gesture can have on someone else’s life!
If you spot a purple butterfly sticker near a newborn, it is important to understand its meaning
When Millie Smith and Lewis Cann found out they were expecting a baby, they were overjoyed. As there was a history of twins in Millie’s family, she had a strong feeling that she was going to give birth to two little ones, and her instincts were right. The ultrasound confirmed that she was indeed expecting twins, but the doctors told them that one of the babies had a very small chance of survival.
ragically, one of their daughters was born at 30 weeks with anencephaly, a serious condition that affects the development of the brain and spinal cord. They learned that their precious baby had only moments or hours to live.
Knowing this, Millie and Lewis wanted to give her a name before they said goodbye. They chose the name Skye. Millie explained: “We felt she needed a name before she arrived. Knowing she wouldn’t be with us for long, I wanted her to have a name in those fleeting moments”.
The name “Skye” symbolized a connection to a place they could always remember when they looked up to the sky. “We held Skye close as she died. It was the most heartbreaking moment of our lives, but I’m proud that she fought to spend that time with us.” Skye only lived for three hours, a brief time filled with love while her parents cherished her beauty and presence.
After her death, Millie and Lewis were supported by a “bereavement midwife” and given access to a “Daisy Room”, a special room where parents could spend time with their baby before and after death. However, after Skye was gone, her memory seemed to fade; no one spoke of her, leaving Millie feeling like her daughter had never existed, which made her angry.
“Most of the nurses knew what had happened, but as the weeks went by, people stopped mentioning Skye. Other families around me had no idea about our loss”, Millie recalls.
While her other daughter, Callie, was still in the NICU, another mother who knew nothing about Millie’s situation remarked how lucky she was not to have twins. “None of the other parents knew about Skye, and that innocent comment almost broke me. I left the room in tears but didn’t have the heart to explain”, Millie said. “A simple sticker could have prevented this.”
This experience inspired Millie to design a sticker for incubators to mark the loss of one or more babies in a multiple birth. She chose butterflies to symbolise the ‘flown away’ babies and used the colour purple, which is suitable for any gender.
From this idea grew the Skye High Foundation, which promotes the Purple Butterflies initiative and helps raise awareness in hospitals around the world. The foundation also offers a range of purple butterfly merchandise.
“Although I can’t prevent these situations from occurring, I believe the more support we can provide through initiatives like the stickers, the better it will be for others who suffer this loss. It’s an incredibly tough journey”, said Millie. Today, her surviving daughter Callie is seven years old.
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