At 35, inexperienced Antonio Banderas suddenly became the father of 6-year-old and 10-year-old kids. Years have passed, and he lives an entirely different life, but he is still a part of their family.
Movie star Antonio Banderas married a woman with two young children and expressed that it was nerve-wracking to marry into a wholesome family of three while being inexperienced.
Spanish actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith met while still married to other people. Griffith was still married to actor Don Johnson whom she wed twice, but they officially separated in 1994.
Actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith pose at The Antonio Banderas’ Blue Seduction for Women fragrance launch at Cedar Lake on July 10, 2008 in New York City ┃Source: Getty Images
She later fell for Banderas, who happened to be her co-star at the time in the 1995 rom-com, “Two Much.” He was still technically married to his first wife, actress Ana Leza. However, the pair were going through a separation then.
A month after Banderas and Griffith finalized their divorces, they walked down the aisle again in an intimate ceremony on May 14, 1996, in London.
When asked what attracted him to the New York native, “The Legend of Zorro” star told AARP in November 2011 that he had “admired Melanie long before I met her.”
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during 12th Carousel of Hope Ball at Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas recalled the first time he saw Griffith in the 1988 movie, “Working Girl,” and was mesmerized by her beauty, “Wow, she’s so beautiful, so special,” he said. He later spotted her at the Oscar Awards on the red carpet but had forgotten her name:
“Pedro Almodovar said, ‘It’s Melanie Griffith, you idiot! She’s nominated for an Academy Award tonight!’ Six years after that, we’re married!”
When asked how they went from their working relationship to being romantically involved while starring in “Two Much,” Banderas revealed they were both “unhappy” in their marriages.
“Things don’t work out sometimes, and that’s the way it goes. But we recognized that we were unhappy. I saw her with her kids, and she was so beautiful as a mom,” said the Spain native.
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during the 55th Cannes film festival: Stairs of “Femme Fatale” on May 25, 2002 in Cannes, France ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas explained that it is typical for co-stars to develop a connection while working together and that most of the time, after filming, everyone cuts ties, but the same cannot be said about him and Griffith.
They kept in touch frequently until they finally admitted they had feelings for each other. Something he noted “was not easy” to do. When the “Frida” star married the Golden Globe Award winner, she had two young children from her previous marriages.
Griffith had her first child, son Alexander, with actor Steven Bauer whom she wed in 1981 and divorced in 1989 following five years of marriage. She welcomed her eldest daughter Dakota with Johnson, whom she was married to between 1976-1976 and 1989-1996.
Banderas Became an ‘Inexperienced’ Stepdad to Griffith’s Kids
Asked how he tried to blend into the marriage being a stepfather to Griffin’s son and daughter, Banderas admitted that it was difficult because he had to reassure the kids that he was there to stay:
“It was hard because the kids had to accept me, and I was totally inexperienced. Suddenly, I had a 6-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. But as soon as the kids knew I was there to stay, they were fine. They needed solid ground in which they could grow.”
Antonio Banderas, Melanie Griffith and children during The 61st Annual Golden Globe Awards – Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images
Once he came to that realization, the “Spy Kids” star began “establishing my relationship, giving them security, little by little doing the father thing.”
When asked how long it took to put the children’s minds at ease, Banderas divulged “it took less than a year” for his stepchildren “to realize that I was not temporary.”
Soon, his daughter Stella was born, which became overwhelming because he was still trying to get Alexander and Dakota to warm up to him.
Banderas Had a Huge Influence on His Stepdaughter’s Career
Banderas’ hard work bonding with his stepkids yielded positive results as he became instrumental in Dakota’s acting career. The “Fifty Shades of Grey” star first had her acting stint in her stepfather’s directorial debut, “Crazy in Alabama” in 1999, alongside her mother. Dakota played Sondra in the film.
As a young child, she spent time with Banderas on set and recalled bringing pop singer Madonna an Easter basket while filming “Evita” in Budapest in 1996.
ANTONIO BANDERAS’ STEPDAUGHTER DAKOTA JOHNSON STILL CALLS HIM ‘PAPI’ DESPITE HIS SPLIT WITH HER MOM
At 35, inexperienced Antonio Banderas suddenly became the father of 6-year-old and 10-year-old kids. Years have passed, and he lives an entirely different life, but he is still a part of their family.
Movie star Antonio Banderas married a woman with two young children and expressed that it was nerve-wracking to marry into a wholesome family of three while being inexperienced.
Spanish actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith met while still married to other people. Griffith was still married to actor Don Johnson whom she wed twice, but they officially separated in 1994.
Actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith pose at The Antonio Banderas’ Blue Seduction for Women fragrance launch at Cedar Lake on July 10, 2008 in New York City ┃Source: Getty Images
She later fell for Banderas, who happened to be her co-star at the time in the 1995 rom-com, “Two Much.” He was still technically married to his first wife, actress Ana Leza. However, the pair were going through a separation then.
A month after Banderas and Griffith finalized their divorces, they walked down the aisle again in an intimate ceremony on May 14, 1996, in London.
When asked what attracted him to the New York native, “The Legend of Zorro” star told AARP in November 2011 that he had “admired Melanie long before I met her.”
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during 12th Carousel of Hope Ball at Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas recalled the first time he saw Griffith in the 1988 movie, “Working Girl,” and was mesmerized by her beauty, “Wow, she’s so beautiful, so special,” he said. He later spotted her at the Oscar Awards on the red carpet but had forgotten her name:
“Pedro Almodovar said, ‘It’s Melanie Griffith, you idiot! She’s nominated for an Academy Award tonight!’ Six years after that, we’re married!”
When asked how they went from their working relationship to being romantically involved while starring in “Two Much,” Banderas revealed they were both “unhappy” in their marriages.
“Things don’t work out sometimes, and that’s the way it goes. But we recognized that we were unhappy. I saw her with her kids, and she was so beautiful as a mom,” said the Spain native.
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during the 55th Cannes film festival: Stairs of “Femme Fatale” on May 25, 2002 in Cannes, France ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas explained that it is typical for co-stars to develop a connection while working together and that most of the time, after filming, everyone cuts ties, but the same cannot be said about him and Griffith.
They kept in touch frequently until they finally admitted they had feelings for each other. Something he noted “was not easy” to do. When the “Frida” star married the Golden Globe Award winner, she had two young children from her previous marriages.
Griffith had her first child, son Alexander, with actor Steven Bauer whom she wed in 1981 and divorced in 1989 following five years of marriage. She welcomed her eldest daughter Dakota with Johnson, whom she was married to between 1976-1976 and 1989-1996.
Banderas Became an ‘Inexperienced’ Stepdad to Griffith’s Kids
Asked how he tried to blend into the marriage being a stepfather to Griffin’s son and daughter, Banderas admitted that it was difficult because he had to reassure the kids that he was there to stay:
“It was hard because the kids had to accept me, and I was totally inexperienced. Suddenly, I had a 6-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. But as soon as the kids knew I was there to stay, they were fine. They needed solid ground in which they could grow.”
Antonio Banderas, Melanie Griffith and children during The 61st Annual Golden Globe Awards – Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images
Once he came to that realization, the “Spy Kids” star began “establishing my relationship, giving them security, little by little doing the father thing.”
When asked how long it took to put the children’s minds at ease, Banderas divulged “it took less than a year” for his stepchildren “to realize that I was not temporary.”
Soon, his daughter Stella was born, which became overwhelming because he was still trying to get Alexander and Dakota to warm up to him.
Banderas Had a Huge Influence on His Stepdaughter’s Career
Banderas’ hard work bonding with his stepkids yielded positive results as he became instrumental in Dakota’s acting career. The “Fifty Shades of Grey” star first had her acting stint in her stepfather’s directorial debut, “Crazy in Alabama” in 1999, alongside her mother. Dakota played Sondra in the film.
As a young child, she spent time with Banderas on set and recalled bringing pop singer Madonna an Easter basket while filming “Evita” in Budapest in 1996.
Her stepdad also cherishes such memories, and he once gushed:” She’s my daughter. I love her. I’ve been with her on my shoulders, traveling all around the world.”
Banderas also revealed Dakota’s sweet nickname for him while growing up, which is a combination of the word “daddy” in his native language and his name:
“Dakota called me Paponio, which is a mixture between papa, which is ‘daddy’ in Spanish, and Antonio. I’m her Antonio papa, so Paponio.”
Sadly, Banderas and Dakota’s mom filed for divorce in June 2014 following 18 years of marriage and released a joint statement that read:
“We have thoughtfully and consensually decided to finalize our almost twenty years marriage in a loving and friendly manner honoring and respecting each other, our family and friends, and the beautiful time we have spent together – Melanie & Antonio.”
The former couple had an amicable separation, and Griffith cited irreconcilable differences as the reason why she and Banderas parted ways.
Dakota Still Maintains a Loving Relationship with Her Stepfather
Many years later, her daughter presented Banderas with the Best Actor Award at the 2019 Hollywood Film Awards in a touching speech. Dakota got emotional when lovingly talking about her stepfather while calling him by her childhood nickname:
“I come from a family of many a marriage, and I got very lucky. I got a bonus dad who I realized that, over time, is actually one of the most influential people in my whole life.”
The Texas native said Banderas brightened their lives and shared his sense of “creativity and culture” with them, adding he brought “one remarkably magical little sister into our family.”
Chocking up, Dakota stated: “My stepfather! Antonio Banderas burst into our lives. He was so vibrant and fun and funny, and his English was abstract, and we found it amazing.” She said he “loved” her mom and her and her siblings so much that it changed their “lives forever.”
In his acceptance speech, Banderas dedicated the award to” two people” he loved, including Dakota, saying it was because she had always called him “Papi” and still does, which he loves. Following the event, the devoted stepdad told E! News Online that he “had no idea” that his stepchild would be honoring him with such a heart-warming speech:
“It was all a surprise. I knew that she was going to give the speech, but I had no idea whatsoever how she was going to do her speech. She didn’t tell me anything.
The proud father said it brought back all those memories he created with his blended family and that “it was a confirmation” that the time he spent with Griffith was not only about them but “about the family. They were all worth it.”
In February 2015, Banderas was promoting his animated film “The SpongeBob Movie: Sponge Out of Water,” which was to be released the same weekend as Dakota’s “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie, and mentioned what a stellar actress she was.
He emphasized that there was “no competition” between him and his stepdaughter because their audiences differed for the films. “I wish Dakota the best, not only because of this movie,” but because he and the rest of the family, including Dakota’s biological father, knew she was an excellent performer.
Banderas added that Dakota would have a thriving career because she is versatile in portraying different characters. She nails comedy, which was evident in the TV series “Ben & Kate,” and drama too, which showed in the movie, he said. He noted that it was a window of “opportunity” for Dakota and that he knew she would grab it with both hands and run with it.
Meus pais me expulsaram há 14 anos, ontem meu filho os encontrou e os trouxe para minha casa – História do dia
Uma mulher expulsa pelos pais os reencontra quatorze anos depois, quando seu filho inesperadamente os leva para casa para fazer uma revelação comovente para a qual ela não estava preparada.
“Você quer que eu administre o mercado só para manter sua herança familiar??” Eu discuti com meus pais. Foi apenas uma semana depois da minha formatura.
Tudo estava tranquilo, ou assim eu pensava, até que meu pai me disse que queria discutir meu futuro. Pensei que ele honraria meu sonho de me tornar um advogado. Mas fiquei em choque quando ele me disse que eu tinha que assumir os negócios da família…
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Lutando por casos, defendendo a justiça… Eu estava sonhando alto. Mas meu pai estourou a bolha, dizendo: “Escute, Meghan, é o nosso negócio de família. Você tem dezenove anos e idade suficiente para assumir. Você não tem escolha.”
“Você quer que eu sacrifique meu sonho para ficar sentado no balcão cobrando contas e estocando itens em vez de estabelecer um nome para mim mesmo?? Eu quero me tornar um advogado, não um varejista de alimentos, pai”, argumentei, mas ele não quis ouvir.
Então, contei outra verdade que o deixou furioso… a verdade sobre meu casamento secreto com Dave, um cara oito anos mais velho que eu, com quem namorei por seis meses.
O perdão é a forma mais bela e pura de amor. Você se torna mais forte quando perdoa os outros.
“Como você pôde arrastar nossos nomes para as ruas? O que as pessoas vão dizer? Como vamos encarar nossos amigos e familiares na igreja??” meus pais me envergonharam. Mas o que foi feito não poderia ser desfeito. Eu era casada, e meus pais tiveram que aceitar, gostassem ou não.
Mas o que me levou a me casar com Dave secretamente?
Eu respeitava meus pais, mas, no fundo, eu era assombrada por um sentimento estranho de que eles cortariam minhas asas e me impediriam de voar alto para realizar meus sonhos.
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E quando conheci Dave, um jovem rico de uma família bem estabelecida, nos apaixonamos. Ele respeitou minha ambição, e isso me aproximou mais dele. Eu tinha medo de que meus pais barrassem minhas visões, então me casei secretamente com Dave antes que pudesse perdê-lo para as visões estereotipadas dos meus pais.
Mas tive que pagar um preço alto por arruinar os sonhos deles — meus pais me expulsaram e me cortaram da vida deles.
“Nunca mais volte para nós”, eles disseram e me jogaram para fora com minha bagagem. Foi o maior golpe que já enfrentei.
Depois que meus pais me expulsaram, Dave se tornou meu maior apoio. Ele me levou para sua casa, me prometeu um bom futuro e até me matriculou na faculdade de direito. Eu não tinha um centavo para gastar, mas Dave me ofereceu todo o apoio financeiro e emocional de que eu precisava para me libertar dos meus medos e perseguir meus sonhos.
Anos se passaram, e meus pais nunca me contataram. Não que eu tenha me esquecido deles, mas eles me injustiçaram em todos os aspectos. Eu não conseguia perdoá-los e presumi que éramos melhores separados. Eu me formei em direito, e minha próxima grande luta foi encontrar um emprego. Ninguém queria me contratar sem experiência anterior.
Então, tomei a decisão errada? Eu deveria ter escutado meus pais?
Meu coração me disse o contrário, então continuei lutando por três anos, e do nada, um escritório de advocacia se ofereceu para me contratar por um bom salário. Fiquei surpreso, e pareceu um milagre para mim.
Dave e eu estávamos tão felizes. Nossa alegria dobrou quando eu já estava grávida do meu terceiro bebê. Dediquei meu coração e alma ao meu trabalho. Eu estava vivendo meus sonhos há anos quando um dia, meu filho mais velho, Eddie, 12, trouxe alguns convidados para casa.
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“Mãe, olha quem chegou! Surpresa!!” ele comemorou. Eu me virei e não sabia se gritava de alegria, se chorava ou se me trancava no meu quarto.
“Mãe? Pai? O que você está fazendo aqui?” Eu engasguei.
Olhei para Eddie em busca de respostas. Mas ele sorriu timidamente e disse: “Mãe, o vovô quer te contar uma coisa!” Ele então levou seus irmãos mais novos, Ricky e Kevin, para fora para que eu pudesse falar com meus pais, algo que eu não fazia há quatorze anos.
Lembro-me de contar ao meu filho Eddie duas semanas atrás sobre seus avós e minha conexão perdida com eles. Mas como ele os encontrou? Não contei a ele onde eles moravam. Como ele os convenceu a me conhecer?
Eu estava confuso e não sabia como começar ou sobre o que falar. De repente, meu pai deu um passo à frente e, enquanto segurava minha mão, desculpando-se por me expulsar, ele fez outra confissão para a qual eu não estava preparado. Fiquei profundamente abalado pela verdade emocional que ele revelou.
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“Por favor, me perdoe, querida”, ele começou. “Eu queria falar com você depois disso, mas não consegui. Então, quando ouvi sobre suas dificuldades para encontrar um emprego, tive uma ideia.”
“Pai, do que você está falando? Que ideia?” Eu interrompi.
“Querida, eu estava procurando uma maneira de compensar meu erro. Quando soube de suas dificuldades para encontrar um emprego, conversei com um velho amigo em um escritório de advocacia, e ele te contratou!”
Fiquei chocada porque a carreira dos sonhos que eu curtia e na qual eu tinha sucesso veio, na verdade, através do meu pai. Ele estava por trás do meu sucesso, e eu não sabia. Como eu pude ser tão ingrata e ressentida com ele? Por que eu não tentei consertar meu relacionamento com meus pais?
“Pai, por que você não me contou?”, eu chorei.
“Eu realmente queria que você tivesse sucesso, querida”, meu pai disse, enxugando minhas lágrimas. “Eu percebi o quão idiota eu era! Eu queria te alcançar, mas eu estava com medo depois do que eu fiz. Eu queimei pontes com você, mas eu ainda te amava… Eu ainda te amo!”
Abracei meu pai e chorei em seu ombro. Foi uma sensação tão linda que deixou meu coração mais leve e feliz. Mas algo ainda me escapava. Como Eddie sabia onde meus pais moravam? Eu só contei a ele uma parte do meu passado, mas como ele o descobriu completamente? Recebi algumas respostas surpreendentes quando meu filho entrou momentos depois…
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“Você gostou da minha surpresa, mãe??”, ele perguntou enquanto meus outros dois filhos abraçavam os avós.
“Eddie??!” Corri e abracei meu filho. “Muito obrigada! Mas como você sabia o endereço deles? Eu nunca te contei…”
“Mãe, depois que você me contou sobre o vovô e a vovó, eu encontrei seu antigo diário no sótão. Eu encontrei o endereço e as fotos deles nele. Eu os visitei depois da escola ontem. Eles me disseram o quanto estavam arrependidos e envergonhados por te expulsarem. Então, eu criei um plano para reunir você com eles!”
Fiquei tocado. Nada poderia ter me levado às lágrimas mais do que o que Eddie fez naquele dia. Foi tão especial e emocionante. Aquele dia trouxe um novo significado para minha vida. Aprendi que o perdão é a mais bela forma de amor e nos torna ainda mais fortes.
Perdoei meus pais e os convidei para jantar no dia seguinte. Eles apareceram com presentes e sobremesas caseiras que eu amava. Quando meus pais conheceram meu marido, Dave, pela primeira vez, eles perceberam que ele era um homem maravilhoso. Eles se desculparam com ele, e passamos o resto da noite conversando apenas sobre as boas memórias de nossas vidas.
“Obrigada, querida!!”, sussurrei e soprei um beijo gentil para meu filho Eddie. Meus pais e eu sempre fomos gratos a ele por nos ajudar a consertar nossas falhas e viajar juntos como uma família feliz em nossa linda jornada da vida.
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O que podemos aprender com essa história?
- O perdão é a forma mais bela e pura de amor. Você se torna mais forte quando perdoa os outros. Meghan perdoou seus pais por expulsá-la de casa quatorze anos atrás, depois de conhecê-los e aprender certas verdades que ela desconhecia.
- Não corte as asas dos seus filhos. Incentive-os e apoie-os a realizar seus sonhos. Os pais de Meghan tentaram impedi-la de seguir carreira na área jurídica. Eles não a apoiaram e a expulsaram. Mas quando ela lutou para encontrar um emprego mais tarde, seu pai secretamente a ajudou a ser contratada por meio de um conhecido.
Compartilhe esta história com seus amigos. Pode alegrar o dia deles e inspirá-los.
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