During a guest appearance on HBO’s Who’s Talking to Chris Wallace, the 80-year-old Copacabana singer said he didn’t think it was important to announce his sexuality during the earlier decades of his career.
Manilow came out in 2017, almost three years after he married his husband and manager Garry Kief in a private ceremony. The couple have been together for 45 years now, though they’ve kept much of their relationship away from the public eye.
When he came out to People magazine in 2017, Manilow — whose real name is Barry Pincus — worried he’d be “disappointing” some of his fans by revealing his sexuality. Instead, Manilow, who was 73 at the time, said the reaction from his fanbase was “beautiful.”
Despite his current feelings of nonchalance about his own coming out, Manilow said announcing his sexuality as his career was booming would have been a bad idea.
“Now being gay is no big deal,” he explained. “Back in the ’70s it would have killed a career.”
Regardless, the usually very private Manilow said he thinks “everybody knew that Garry and I were a couple all those years.”
“Really, Garry and I’ve been together for so long,” he said. “It just never dawned on me that we’re going to come out. But when we got married, it was a big deal, so we did.”
Manilow credited Kief for saving his life. He said he is thankful he had Kief to support him as his music career was taking off, despite keeping their relationship under wraps.
“As my career exploded, it was just crazy. And, you know, going back to an empty hotel room, you can get into a lot of trouble if you’re alone night after night after night,” Manilow explained. “But I met Garry right around when it was exploding. And I didn’t have to go back to those empty hotel rooms. I had somebody to cry with or to celebrate with.”
Manilow said he did not wish an isolated hotel room for any young people.
“It was pretty lonely until I met Garry. And then it was fun,” he smiled.
Kief is not Manilow’s first spouse. In 1964, Manilow married his high school sweetheart, Susan Deixler. They were married for one year.
Manilow told CNN’s Wallace he “really did love” Deixler, but added “the gay thing was pretty, pretty strong. I couldn’t deny it.”
The singer said he knew he was gay before marrying Deixler, but their marriage ended because Manilow couldn’t be the committed husband his then-wife needed. He revealed that his sexuality was not the reason his marriage failed.
“We had a very nice marriage, it was great, but I was away every night making music, as a young musician would be,” Manilow described. “It wasn’t good for me, and it wasn’t good for her.”
“I couldn’t be the proper husband,” he continued. “I was out making music every night, sowing my wild oats. I wasn’t ready to settle down.”
Brooklyn-born Manilow skyrocketed to international fame in 1974 after his release of the ever-popular pop-rock ballad Mandy. He became one of the biggest-selling musicians of all time. Prior to his success as a singer-songwriter, Manilow was behind a number of famous commercial jingles for brands like State Farm and Band-Aid — a gig that he has said helped him create catchy hooks for his own hit songs.
I Found Out My Son Was Planning to Cheat on My Lovely Daughter-in-Law and Decided to Crash His Date with His Mistress
Maggie adores her daughter-in-law, Lara. So when she overhears her son, Dan, planning a night with his mistress, she refuses to stay silent. With Lara by her side, she follows him, straight to his betrayal. But exposing him just isn’t enough. Instead, Maggie is about to teach her son a lesson that will cost him everything.
I have two sons. My eldest? James. A loving husband, a wonderful father, hardworking, honest, and kind.
My other son? Dan.
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Dan has always been… difficult. Selfish. Lazy. He was the type of kid who skated by on charm, always looking for the easiest way out. While James built a life, Dan bounced from one “passion” to another.
“It’s just the way I am, Mom,” he’d say. “Life is full of opportunities, and I want to try them out!”
The latest? A local fitness blogger, selling online courses on “proper nutrition and sports.” He barely had any followers, but he loved the attention.
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The comments, the likes, the little taste of fame.
We had long accepted that Dan would never settle down. So when he married Lara six months ago, we were shocked.
And Lara?
Oh, she was a dream. Sweet, thoughtful, kind, exactly the kind of woman I wished Dan could be worthy of. A wonderful wife and an even better daughter-in-law. A beautiful soul. And for a moment, I truly believed she could change him.
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But Dan is Dan.
And a few nights ago, I found out exactly how much of a fool I had been.
It was late afternoon, and Dan was in my guest bedroom. He and Lara had a studio apartment, meaning that there was no room for his digital set-up. I was used to him coming and going, constantly making noise while filming.
I had just put the kettle on when I heard Dan’s voice, muffled but still audible, coming from the hallway.
“Yes, babe,” he chuckled. “I miss you too. But she’ll be at work tomorrow until late, so we can go to the restaurant and then move to the hotel. Yeah?”
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There was silence for a moment.
“Yes, the fancy restaurant on Paradise, Jen… I’ll text you the time.”
I gripped the container of teabags I was holding. My stomach dropped.
This foolish man was cheating.
On Lara.
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The sweet girl who made him homemade lunches. Who laughed at his bad jokes. Who believed in him when the rest of us had given up any hope.
My hands shook as I turned off the stove. And in that moment, I made my decision.
I wasn’t going to let Lara be another woman blindsided by Dan’s selfishness. I was going to tell her everything. And we were going to teach Dan a lesson.
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The next afternoon, I picked Lara up from work. She greeted me with a warm smile, wiping her hands on her apron. She worked at one of the busiest bakeries in town.
“Maggie! What a surprise! What are you doing here?” she asked, beaming.
I took a deep breath.
“Lara, sweetheart, we need to talk.”
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We sat in my car, and I told her everything. Every single word I had overheard. Everything I had suspected.
Her face went pale.
“He… he said that?” her voice cracked.
“I love and respect you too much to hide it, Lara. You’re the daughter I never had,” I said, reaching for her hand.
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Tears welled in her eyes, and she clutched her apron tightly with one hand. But she didn’t break.
She swallowed hard and whispered,
“I want to see it with my own eyes. Do you know which restaurant?”
I nodded.
“Then let’s go, sweetheart. I heard which restaurant while he was on the phone.”
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Dan had made dinner reservations at a fancy restaurant. One of those dimly lit places where the food is served in tiny portions, but the bill could make you cry.
Lara and I slipped inside, finding a perfect spot by the window.
And there he was.
My son, grinning like a fool, sitting across from a blonde woman in a tight red dress. Jen.
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She leaned in, twirling a piece of hair around her finger, laughing at something he said.
I watched Lara dig her nails into her palm. I put my hand on her knee.
“Breathe, Lara. It’s not over yet.”
“Unbelievable,” she muttered.
We didn’t confront them. Not yet. We just watched. Watched him pour her wine. Watched him whisper in her ear. Watched him act like he wasn’t married to the best woman he would ever have.
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Someone a million times more than he deserved.
Then, hand in hand, they left the restaurant.
And we followed.
As they approached the hotel two roads away, we sat in the car and waited. As much as I knew we were doing the right thing, I didn’t want to break Lara’s heart. But here Dan was… already doing that.
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I pulled out my phone.
“He probably posted something about it on his socials, right? Dan’s that stupid. He can’t resist posting hints about his ‘private life.’”
“Let’s check his story,” Lara said.
And there it was.
A grainy black-and-white photo of a hotel hallway, stupidly captioned:
Privacy is everything.
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Lara zoomed in, and all the answers were there.
“Room 312,” she said.
Bingo.
Dan had given us everything we needed.
We got to the third floor just in time to see Dan and Jen disappear inside the room.
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“Are you sure you want to do this, Mom?” she asked, exhaling slowly.
I loved when she called me Mom. It made my heart melt. And I realized that I truly did love this girl.
“Oh, sweetheart, I’ve never been more sure of anything in my life, Lara,” I said. “He cannot get away with this.”
And with that, we stormed in.
Dan was on the bed, his shirt already halfway unbuttoned, Jen straddling his lap.
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His face went ghost white when he realized what was happening.
“What the… Mom?!” he yelped, scrambling to push Jen off him.
Lara wasn’t crying. She wasn’t yelling. She simply picked up Dan’s phone from the table with his wallet and watch and held it up.
“Smile for the camera, Daniel,” she said.
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And just like that, she went live on socials.
Dan’s followers flooded in. His small but dedicated audience, the ones who actually believed in his “perfect athlete and family man” persona, were tuned in and watching.
“Hey, everyone!” Lara said into the camera, her voice steady although her hands shook. “You all think this man is a role model, right? A perfect husband? A loyal partner?”
She turned the camera to Dan.
Jen shrieked, covering her face. Dan lunged for the phone.
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“Turn it off, dammit!” he screamed.
I stepped in front of him.
“Oh, honey, don’t you dare.”
Lara looked straight into the camera.
“Meet the real Dan. A liar. A cheater. A fraud. This is what he does while he tells you to be ‘better, stronger, healthier!’ While his wife is at work, supporting him. This is the man you follow. This is the man you trust.”
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I picked up my phone and joined in on the live. I wanted to see the comment section explode.
Wait! He’s married?!
This is the guy I bought a nutrition plan from?
Unfollowing NOW! What a joke!
Is this him cheating? And his wife is exposing him? Haha!
Dan shouted. He yanked at his hair, rage and panic flooding his face.
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But it was too late. The world had seen him. The real him.
The fallout was brutal.
Lara filed for divorce. Dan lost everything. Sponsors dropped him immediately. Followers vanished overnight. And as for Dan’s courses?
Refund requests flooded in.
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James, my eldest, washed his hands of him.
“No way. I’m not bailing you out this time, Dan. And why would you do that to Lara? You make me sick. I don’t want my kids to know you.”
And me?
I did what a mother had to do.
I let him fall.
Because if you raise a son who has no respect for his wife, then as a mother, you have failed.
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I may have lost a son that night, but I gained a daughter.
And I’d choose Lara every time.
Lara sat at the kitchen table, fingers tracing the rim of her mug. The warmth of the tea did little to thaw the heaviness in her chest. It was clear to see.
“I still can’t believe you stood by me like this,” she whispered, her voice thick with emotion. “You didn’t have to. You could’ve just… ignored it. Pretended that you didn’t hear any of it.”
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I swallowed the lump in my throat.
“Sweetheart, how could I?” I said softly. “I love you. You’re my daughter, even if not by blood.”
Lara looked up, her eyes glassy.
“But it must have hurt. To see your own son exposed like that.”
I clenched my hands around my mug.
“It broke me, Lara,” I admitted.
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“Because of what he did to me?” she asked, her gaze fixed on the scone in front of her.
“Because of what he turned into,” I said. “Because I raised a man who could humiliate a woman like you. And because I couldn’t stop it.”
Lara let out a watery chuckle. “And instead, you helped me destroy him.”
I smirked. “Damn right I did.”
She reached across the table, squeezing my hand.
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“I lost a husband,” she whispered, “but I gained a mother.”
Tears stung my eyes.
“And I’ll always choose you, sweetheart.”
A week later, Dan had moved out of his apartment and into Jen’s home, leaving Lara to find herself in her own space. But this evening, he had come home for one final family meeting.
Dan stood in my living room, arms crossed, looking every bit the sulking child he had always been. James sat beside me, his jaw clenched so tight I thought he might break his teeth.
“So, what now?” Dan scoffed. “You guys are just going to cut me out completely?”
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James exhaled sharply.
“You did that yourself, Dan.”
Dan rolled his eyes. “Oh, come on. Lara’s fine. She got her revenge. What more do you want?”
I stared at him, disgust curling in my stomach.
“Fine?” My voice was low, dangerous. “You humiliated her. You destroyed your own marriage. You ruined everything, and for what? A cheap thrill?”
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Dan scoffed. “It wasn’t like that…”
“Shut up, Dan.” James’s voice was sharp, cutting through his excuses. “For once in your life, shut up and take responsibility.”
Dan had the audacity to laugh.
“Oh, please. You’ve always hated me. This is just an excuse to push me out.”
I stood up, my hands trembling.
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“Do you think this is easy for me?” I whispered. “Do you think I wanted to be ashamed of my own son?”
Dan’s smirk faltered.
“I have always loved you, Dan. Even when you failed. Even when you disappointed us.” I swallowed hard. “But this? I can’t stand by you after this.”
James stood beside me.
“Neither can I.”
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Dan looked between us, panic flickering in his eyes.
“You’re choosing her over me?” he asked, voice cracking.
I nodded.
“Dan. I’m choosing what’s right over you.”
And with that, I turned away. James followed. As for Dan? He was finally alone.
Some betrayals deserve to be exposed. Some men deserve to lose everything. And sometimes? Your real family isn’t the one you’re born into. It’s the one you choose.
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