My mother had a clear favorite her entire life, while I was raised by my grandparents mostly. When she got old and sick, I helped financially but refused to do more than that for a crucial reason.
While most good parents would tell you that they don’t have a favorite, my mother was not ashamed to tell me that my brother, Stanley, was her golden boy. My father walked out of our family because caring for two children became too much.
In the end, my mother blamed me for it. “He wouldn’t have left if I hadn’t gotten pregnant with you,” she told me one day. I was just a child at the time and only wanted my mother’s love.
“But that’s not my fault,” I replied. “I didn’t ask to be born.”
“Don’t talk back to me! I’m the parent, and you’re the kid, so shut up,” she finished. We would have similar conversations through the years whenever she was mad at me. Finally, my mother sent me to live with my paternal grandparents.
They felt so bad that our father had walked away from our lives that they took me in and gave me all the love I never received at home. That’s how I learned that the word family has lots of meanings.
All I heard about my mother and brother over the years was that she helped him with everything. He got into some trouble with the police, and my mother paid all his legal fees. Eventually, she had to sell her house and pay for his apartment.
Stanley was spoiled and couldn’t hold down a job, but my mother coddled him. Meanwhile, my grandparents didn’t have much money, but they gave me everything they could. I had to work to afford my college and my home.
I learned a whole ton of responsibility, and when I graduated, I got a pretty decent job. That’s where I met my husband, Lawrence. We had two daughters whom I cherished equally. When my grandparents got sick, I was there for them until the very end.
They gave me their house, and one of my daughters moved there when she got married. Unfortunately, my husband died shortly after her wedding. She asked me to live with her, but I wanted to stay in our home.
I didn’t hear from my brother or my mother for many years. They didn’t care about me at all, so why should I care about them? But one day, Stanley called. “Hello?” I answered the phone.
“Hey, Brooke. It’s Stanley. How are you?” my brother said through the other line.
“Oh, hey, Stanley. Long time, no speak. I’m fine. How about you?” I replied.
“Yeah, it’s been a while. Listen, I’m calling because Mom broke her hip. I need your help,” Stanley continued.
“Oh, that’s too bad. Is she ok?” I asked.
“She’s fine. It’s just that the hospital bill will be pretty expensive, and I need help paying for it. She’s our mother after all,” he explained.
“Oh, well. Ok. Give me the details, and I’ll send some money,” I told him. My husband and I had accumulated decent savings, so I could afford to send Stanley some money for whatever our mother needed.
“That’s great, Brooke. Thank you. I’ll talk to you later,” Stanley said and hung up. I didn’t feel any obligation to my mother, but I wasn’t heartless. I sent him the money and forgot about it until a week later when my brother called again.
“Hey, Brooke!” Stanley started.
“Hey. How did everything go?” I asked.
“The operation for her hip went well, but the doctor just told me she’s going to need tons of rehab and round-the-clock care. I was wondering when you could come to pick her up?” my brother asked.
“What do you mean pick her up?” I probed, confused.
“I told you. She needs someone to take care of her. I’ve been by her side our whole lives. It’s time you take responsibility, Brooke. I can’t watch her,” Stanley added.
“Excuse me? Responsibility? Mom sent me to live with our grandparents because she hated me, and you were her golden boy. She essentially abandoned me,” I snapped.
“Please. Stop the melodrama. You need to step up because she needs you. She gave you life. You owe her,” Stanley demanded.
“No. I don’t owe her anything. I needed my mother when I was growing up, and she refused. She gave all her love to you, so you will need to figure out something. I gave you money for her hospital bills out of the goodness of my heart, but I won’t be her caretaker,” I told him.
“YOU’RE HORRIBLE, BROOKE! HOW CAN YOU DO THIS? I CAN’T WATCH HER!” Stanley started screaming through the phone.
“Honestly, I don’t care, Stanley. You don’t get to call me horrible. I was a kid when she abandoned me, and my grandparents became my REAL PARENTS. Don’t call me again!” I finished and hung up the call.
Stanley tried calling, texting, e-mailing, and more for several days, but I blocked him. He also tried contacting my daughters, but they refused to listen to him. They knew my history with that side of the family.
Of course, Stanley and my mother bad-mouthed me to anyone who would listen. I have been severely judged for my decision, but I didn’t listen to their criticism. After all, no one ever judged my mother for what she did to me.
What can we learn from this story?
- Caring for your loved ones is important. While Brooke’s choice is controversial, it’s easy to understand her point of view, given her background.
- Forgiveness is divine. Sometimes, you have to be the bigger person. Caring for your parents when they’re old is a big duty, both financially and emotionally. Someone has to do it.
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“Finally, Her Real Face,” Jennifer Lopez’s Latest Appearance Sparks Mocking Comments
Jennifer Lopez, renowned for her timeless beauty and iconic style, recently stepped out in an appearance that stirred up reactions across the internet. Some people seized the opportunity to critique and compare her to the photos she posts on her social media.
Jennifer Lopez attended Paris Fashion Week with a one of a kind outfit.
J. Lo made a dazzling entrance at Paris Fashion Week, captivating onlookers with a one-of-a-kind ensemble that epitomized haute couture innovation. Adorned in a coat crafted from an astonishing 7,000 real rose petals, meticulously kept fresh and vibrant by a delicate infusion of sugar water, she embodied the epitome of natural elegance.
The actress and singer took to her social media to share a glimpse of her ethereal attire, crediting the visionary designer Daniel Roseberry for Schiaparelli Couture 2024 with its creation. In a world where fashion often blurs the lines between art and attire, J. Lo’s floral masterpiece stood as a testament to the boundless creativity and sheer spectacle of the couture realm.
J. Lo received criticism for her looks.
It’s disheartening to witness the rapid judgment that often pervades social media platforms, even towards individuals as esteemed as Jennifer Lopez. The viral video from Paris Fashion Week, capturing a candid moment, has become a platform for unsolicited criticism, with viewers dissecting J. Lo’s appearance.
Comments such as “Finally, her real face. She looks like everyone else,” and “Oops. You can see her wrinkly forehead,” highlight the pervasive culture of unrealistic beauty standards and the relentless pressure placed on women.
Some have questioned her consistent use of filters online, stating, “I don’t think people are upset about her aging naturally, it’s just that in every post she does, she uses a filter, and looks nothing like this. I think she’s beautiful no matter what, but she talks about empowerment, and women being strong, yet she uses a filter in every photo, and every video she ever does. She has no control over this video, that’s why you get to see her real face.”
While she has long been an advocate for empowerment and self-love, this incident serves as a stark reminder of the challenges faced by individuals in the public eye, where every moment is subject to public scrutiny and judgment.
Her fans came to the rescue in the comments.
In the wake of the viral video, a wave of support emerged from fans rallying behind the iconic star. Some took it upon themselves to defend J. Lo and her right to age gracefully, countering the harsh critiques with words of encouragement. Comments such as “This is what no Botox looks like, and it’s really okay!” and “J. Lo is aging beautifully. Did y’all forget that there ARE people in Hollywood who accept their age ?!” served as poignant reminders of the beauty in embracing natural aging processes.
Others chimed in, highlighting the societal pressures faced by older women, with remarks like “Love seeing comments from some 20-30-year-olds who have no idea the pressure older women are under. The signs of aging are coming for all of us, ladies. Don’t criticize others until you’ve been in their shoes.” These supportive voices underscored the importance of empathy and understanding in a world often fixated on unrealistic standards of beauty.
Demi Moore, the ageless beauty and Hollywood icon, has too once again left fans in awe with her latest jaw-dropping appearance. At 61, Moore defies all expectations as she stuns in a sheer dress that exudes confidence and allure.
Preview photo credit jlo / Instagram, jo_squillo / Instagram
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