It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
Mom Sells Old Stroller to Feed 4 Kids, Finds It on Her Doorstep the Next Day with Note Inside – Story of the Day
Anne Sargent sat alone on her kitchen floor, tears streaming down her cheeks in the silence of midnight. It was the only time she allowed herself to feel the weight of her sorrow, the pain of being abandoned by her husband, Derek, while carrying their fourth child. Her heart ached for her unborn baby and for the three children sleeping upstairs, dependent on her for everything.
Just two months ago, Anne had been blissfully happy, anticipating the arrival of her new baby. Derek’s abrupt departure shattered that happiness, leaving her to grapple with feelings of confusion and betrayal. He had walked in one night, his face twisted with anger, and declared he was leaving. “All you did was have babies and fuss over them!” he had yelled, as if the love she poured into their family had somehow suffocated him.
Now, with limited resources and mounting bills, Anne took on a part-time job at a local grocery store, determined to provide for her children. She began selling family heirlooms to make ends meet—first the antique china, then a cherished silver brush-and-mirror set. But soon, she found herself at the end of her options, facing the heartbreaking decision to sell the vintage stroller that had been passed down through generations.
With a heavy heart, she brought the stroller to the flea market, hoping to get a few dollars for it. When a dealer offered her $50, it felt like a lifeline, albeit a small one. Little did she know, this would not be the end of the stroller’s story.
Two days later, Anne was surprised to find the stroller returned to her porch, along with an envelope containing a message from Grace, a woman who claimed to know Derek. When they met, the truth spilled out—Grace had been Derek’s girlfriend, unaware of Anne and the children. She had bought the stroller in excitement, wanting to celebrate their future family together. But when Derek learned the truth, he erupted in anger, ultimately sending Grace away.
Anne felt a mix of compassion and sorrow for Grace, who was now homeless and pregnant herself. Without hesitation, Anne offered her a place to stay, recognizing that they both needed each other. Grace’s experience with children and Anne’s need for support created an unexpected partnership.
Together, they formed a new family dynamic, sharing responsibilities and raising their children. Anne’s opportunity to manage the grocery store opened up when Grace stepped in to help with the kids after school, allowing Anne to work full-time.
As their friendship deepened, they celebrated each other’s pregnancies, supporting one another through the challenges of motherhood. When Anne’s baby was born, Grace was right there beside her, and vice versa.
Meanwhile, Derek, having struggled with his choices and relationships, eventually found his way back to Anne’s door. But when he saw the new life she had built with Grace and their children, he was met with a firm rejection. “Sorry, so not interested!” Anne declared, finally free from the shadow of his betrayal.
In this new chapter, Anne and Grace embraced their unconventional family, filled with laughter, love, and resilience. Together, they forged a path forward, proving that family can take many forms, and that support often comes from the most unexpected places.
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