Breastfeeding is a natural part of motherhood, and many mothers find themselves feeding their babies in public when the need arises. One young mother experienced this firsthand, but she had no idea that someone was secretly filming her during this intimate moment. When she discovered the footage, she had plenty to say about it. Read on to find out more…
Izabele Lomax, a woman from Maryland, was going about her day on social media when she stumbled upon a video that made her heart drop. Upon closer inspection, she realized it featured her breastfeeding in public.
The clip she encountered was a screenshot of a prior post. A stranger had recorded Lomax nursing her baby and criticized her for not covering up while doing so. The post, shared in a breastfeeding support group, included a caption expressing disbelief that another woman would take a video of a mother feeding her child and post it online.
Lomax felt a strong connection to the post, as it showed her in a vulnerable moment. “I was like:, ‘That’s me!”” she recalled, shocked to learn she had been filmed without her consent while enjoying a day at the beach.
The person who posted the video claimed they weren’t trying to shame breastfeeding mothers but rather criticized Lomax for not being more discreet. They expressed discomfort at the idea of exposing their son to topless women in public spaces.
In the video, Lomax was shown sitting under an umbrella at the beach, nursing her infant without realizing she was being recorded. The carefree day she had shared with her fiancé, baby, and parents took a turn for the worse when someone decided to judge her actions.
Not one to remain silent, Lomax took to social media to address the situation directly. In her video response, she pointed out that the woman had walked by her several times and could have chosen to speak to her instead of filming her without her knowledge.
Lomax emphasized that she would not have stopped breastfeeding her child, and she questioned why the woman felt the need to sexualize breastfeeding in front of her own young son. “If you have time to record me and post about it on Facebook, you could have taken a moment to educate your son about breastfeeding”, she said in her impassioned response.
Support for Lomax poured in from her followers, leading the original poster to delete the video. Many commenters expressed disbelief at the woman’s decision to publicly shame another mother for breastfeeding. One commenter remarked: “Who does this lady think needs protection? Just explain to your kid that the woman is feeding her baby, and move on”.
Others noted that the baby’s head covered any nudity that might have been visible, reinforcing the idea that there was nothing inappropriate about the situation. This incident sparked a significant discussion, highlighting the strong opinions surrounding public breastfeeding. What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your comments!
If you see a purple butterfly sticker near a newborn, you need to know what it means
Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
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