This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Following her role in “Crocodile Dundee,” Linda Kozlowski gained international recognition. Co-starring alongside Paul Hogan, the film marked a significant turning point in her career. However, after the “Dundee” series and a few other appearances, Kozlowski gradually stepped away from the Hollywood limelight.
Born on January 7, 1958, in Fairfield, Connecticut, Linda Kozlowski pursued her passion for acting by enrolling in the renowned theater program at the Juilliard School. After completing her degree in 1981, she made her debut in various off-Broadway productions. Eventually, she transitioned to minor roles on Broadway and television, including the television movie “Death of a Salesman,” where she acted alongside Dustin Hoffman.
Linda’s journey to stardom had its challenges. She moved to California after working as a waitress following her role in “Death of a Salesman.” During this time, Dustin Hoffman, who had become her mentor, and his wife offered her a place to stay in their Malibu beach house. It was from there that Linda embarked on an audition that would change her life forever.
Dustin Hoffman recommended Linda for the role of Sue Charlton in “Crocodile Dundee,” a role she auditioned for successfully. The film’s success was monumental, grossing over $320 million on a $10 million budget, making Linda Kozlowski a star virtually overnight. Interestingly, her fame was more pronounced in Australia initially due to the film’s early release there.
Despite her newfound stardom, Linda didn’t feel she received the attention she deserved in Hollywood. She continued to act in the “Crocodile Dundee” sequels but turned down many offers for roles that typecast her as the girlfriend of a comic actor. Linda decided to step away from acting altogether after the third “Dundee” film.
In her personal life, Linda Kozlowski found love with her co-star Paul Hogan during the “Crocodile Dundee” series. They got married in 1990 and had a son named Chance in 1998. However, their marriage ended in 2014.
Following her divorce from Paul Hogan, Linda Kozlowski chose to live life on her own terms. She received a substantial settlement and decided to shift her focus. Her attention turned to Morocco, where she met Moulay Hafid Baba, a native tour guide. Their connection was immediate, leading to a significant life change.
Together, Linda and Moulay Hafid Baba established the luxury travel agency Dream My Destiny in Marrakech. They create unique travel itineraries tailored to their clients’ preferences. Linda’s life had transitioned from Hollywood to the enchanting landscapes of Morocco.
While Linda Kozlowski may have stepped away from the acting world, her legacy as Sue Charlton in “Crocodile Dundee” lives on. At 63 years old, she has chosen to embrace her adventurous and fulfilling life in Morocco. She finds real life more rewarding than fiction, focusing on her role in the travel industry, where her intuition, honed during her acting career, plays a vital role in creating memorable experiences for others.
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