How we choose to raise our children and the lessons we decide to ingrain in them from an early age differs from parent to parent.
It’s only natural, of course. Some mothers and fathers take a more disciplined approach, for example, while others prefer to let their kids go through a try and fail cycle so that they can learn right and wrong through their own experiences.
Now, for the most part, how one chooses to style their son or daughter’s upbringing is their business, no one else’s. Yet that doesn’t stop people commenting and criticizing online every time a debate is sparked over some parental decision or another…
I remember when I was younger, doing chores was considered part and parcel of everyday life. I mean for me and my siblings, of course, not only my mother.
Doing dishes, making beds, helping to prepare food before mealtimes… the list goes on and on.
I understand times change, but in my mind getting children to help out with tasks around the house – providing there’s no danger involved – is a great way to instill values and a worth ethic that will come in handy later on.
It seems, though, that not everyone agrees. According to reports, one mother found this out the hard way a few years back after she uploaded pictures of her son and shared her method of giving him chores to do with the internet.
The mom in question, 22-year-old Nikkole Paulun, reportedly explained how she proudly put her 7-year-old son, Lyle, to work around the house, where he would help out with things like cooking and cleaning.
Nothing too dramatic, I’m sure we can all agree, but that didn’t stop online detractors from verbally attacking her and expressing concern over the potential impact on the child’s emotional well-being.
The bulk of the critics targeted the fact that the mother had shared her son’s chores online, not only potentially making other parents question themselves, but also flagging the idea that the child might not want to have his daily activities shared with a large number of strangers online.
One woman went as far as to write in the comments that Nikkole couldn’t just let her child “be your slave. Or to do the chores that you yourself don’t want to do.”
Another wrote: “So I take it you can do everything ur teaching ur son to do or are you just putting pressure on ur child?”
A third added: “Don’t get me wrong… a child should know responsibility. .. but should not be operating a stove that young.“
A fourth wrote: “Lazy mother’s are sweeping the country. It’s good to teach them while they’re young but i notice alot of these single mom’s are just raising their boy’s to be the man that they wish they always had.“
There were many who defended Nikkole in the comments, too, with her post gaining viral status after it garnered over 8,000 comments and 156,000 interactions on Facebook.
Nikkole herself insisted that she enjoys doing housework and that her son Lyle “just helps along the way & earns allowance as well.
What’s more, she added that her then-one-year-old daughter, Ellie, would be following in her elder siblings steps and doing the same thing when she was a little older.
What do you think to Nikkole’s parenting approach and the criticism she got for it? Let us know your thoughts in the comments box.
SINGLE MOM OF FOUR BUYS USED CAR—WHAT SHE FINDS IN THE TRUNK WILL LEAVE YOU SPEECHLESS
A single mother of four, Jennifer, needed a used car to help her get to work. The car’s previous owner asked her to open the trunk when she got home. What she found inside turned out to be life-changing.
Jennifer became a single mother when her husband, Adam, left her after learning she was pregnant with their fourth child. He said, “Another child to feed? No way! I’ve had enough!” and then left their trailer and filed for divorce.
Jennifer was heartbroken. Even though the pregnancy was unexpected, she had hoped Adam would support her during this tough time, especially since they were already struggling financially.
After their separation, Adam stopped giving Jennifer money for their children. He said he couldn’t find a job and that no one would hire him because he didn’t graduate from college.
Soon after giving birth, Jennifer had to find a job because she was running out of money for food, diapers, and milk. She walked through various restaurants and shops looking for work but faced rejections because she had four small children.
One employer told her, “It’s difficult to hire mothers with young children because something always comes up. Either your child is sick, or you have no one to leave them with, so you have to miss work. It’s too much for us to handle.”
With no luck in her neighborhood, Jennifer started looking for work in a nearby city. She used the last of her money to take a cab and asked her neighbors to watch her children for the afternoon.
When Jennifer arrived in the nearby city, she saw a job opening for a housekeeping position at a local hotel. She went in, applied, and was hired on the spot. The HR manager told her, “We badly need staff, especially with the summer season coming up. We’ll be fully booked soon.”
Desperate for work, Jennifer took the job, even though it meant commuting to another city every day. She thanked the HR manager and went home to share the good news with her kids.
After spending nearly $30 on cab fare, Jennifer realized she couldn’t afford to commute daily. She needed a car but didn’t have the money for a new one. Her best option was to buy a used car.
Jennifer found a used car she wanted but wondered if the owner would lower the price. She explained, “I’m a single mom of four, and it’s been hard to earn money. I need a car to get to a job in a nearby city. Could you possibly sell it to me for $5000?”
Understanding her situation, the owner agreed to the lower price. “If you can buy the car by tomorrow, I’ll sell it to you for $5000,” he said.
Jennifer was extremely grateful for the owner’s willingness to help. She decided to apply for a loan at the bank to afford the car. Unfortunately, her loan application was quickly rejected due to her bad credit.
Running out of options, Jennifer thought hard about her next move. She couldn’t move to the new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school near their trailer park.
Rent in the nearby city was also much higher, and she wouldn’t be able to bring the trailer with her. She needed a car to commute to work and to pick up her children from school and daycare.
Then, she remembered a family heirloom her late mother had left her—a gold chain necklace that had been passed down through generations. Jennifer felt emotional at the thought of selling it, but she knew she needed the car to support her children and secure their future.
As Jennifer struggled to find a solution, she realized she couldn’t move to a new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school nearby.
The car owner, Jeff, smiled and said, “Congratulations on your car. It’s a great purchase.”
As Jennifer signed the paperwork, Jeff quietly placed something in the trunk. When she was about to drive away, he called out, “By the way, check the car’s trunk when you get home. I left something for your children inside.”
Jennifer, busy with commuting to work and managing her children, forgot to check the trunk until she later found a note in the car’s glove compartment.
The note read, “I hope you and your children liked the gift I left inside the trunk. May it be of great help to you.” Curious, Jennifer decided to open the trunk to see what the gift was.
At first, Jennifer was puzzled when she saw only a white envelope in the trunk. It was the same envelope she had used to pay for the car. When she opened it, she found her $5000 payment untouched.
Overwhelmed with emotion, Jennifer cried, touched by Jeff’s kindness. She drove back to the dealership after work to thank Jeff.
Jeff told her, “The world throws challenges at you, and it’s up to you to rise or succumb to them. I’m proud of you for staying strong for your children. I thought you could use the money more than I could. Just don’t forget to pay it forward.”
What can we learn from this story?
1. Compassion makes a big difference. Jeff, who owned a successful car dealership, chose to help Jennifer, a struggling single mom, in a meaningful way.
2. Determination pays off. Jennifer worked hard to support her children despite many obstacles and rejections.
3. Inspire others. Sharing stories like this can uplift and motivate those around you.
If you enjoyed this story, you might also like one about a teen who discovers a will under the seat of his late granddad’s old car on his sixteenth birthday.
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