Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Whеn Snаkеs Surрrisе: А Mоthеr’s Теrrifying Еnсоuntеr
Finding unexpected creatures in our surroundings can be quite scary, even more so when it’s a vеnоmous snake! Just ask one mother who had a nerve-wracking encounter in her own backyard during her daughter’s seventh-grade graduation.
While trying to capture a cherished moment with her daughter sitting near a tree, she noticed something chilling in the picture. A snake had emerged from the tree just as her daughter flashed a smile for the camera! Both mother and daughter were shaken, but thankfully, uninjured.
“I snapped two photos after seeing the snake since it was frightening. I was remarkably calm when I urged her to back off, but I think she saw everything in my expression,” the mother shаrеd.
Encountering a snake can be a terrifying experience for anyone. The key is to remain calm and not panic. Remember, snakes can be harmful depending on the species. So, what should you do if you stumble upon a snake?
First and foremost, give the snake space. Leaving them alone is the safest option. It’s essential to know how to identify the species if you can do so safely. This will help you determine the appropriate distance to keep between yourself and the snake. However, attempting to catch or handle a wild snake is extremely risky and could prove fatal for both parties involved.
If you find yourself in close proximity to a snake, carefully back away until you reach a safe distance. Observing it from afar ensures that others around you can also avoid any potential dаngеr.
Once you’re at a safe distance, seek assistance from local wildlife officials if possible. They have the expertise to handle the situation and ensure the snake is either returned to its natural habitat or treated if injured.
It’s important to remember that snakes play a vital role in their ecosystems and should never be harmed unless absolutely necessary. By giving them space, you not only protect yourself but also contribute to the well-being of these creatures.
If you’re interested in learning more about snakes, there are numerous online resources as well as books written by qualified herpetologists. Acquainting yourself with the snake species in your area can help you recognize them quickly and know what to do if you encounter one. Remember, coexisting harmoniously with nature means respecting both your own safety and the snake’s role in the ecosystem!
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