Signs of stubbornness that only girls understand

Some things in life are just universal among women, and one of them is sheer, unwavering stubbornness—especially when it comes to everyday habits, beauty routines, and personal quirks. If you’re a girl, you’ll instantly relate to these little signs of determination that seem to be built into your DNA. And yes, if you’ve ever used a lipstick down to the very last possible swipe (like the image above suggests), then you definitely know what we’re talking about!

The Lipstick That Refuses to Die

Let’s start with the most iconic form of stubbornness: refusing to throw away a lipstick, no matter how tiny it gets. That little plastic casing at the bottom? Yeah, there’s still product in there, and you will dig it out with your fingernail, a brush, or even a bobby pin before declaring it finished. Why? Because every last bit of that shade is precious.

Men might not understand, but every girl knows that finding the perfect lipstick color is rare. Once you find the one, there’s no way you’re letting a single speck go to waste.

Wearing Heels Even When It Feels Like Foot Torture

Blisters? Sore arches? Toes screaming in agony? None of it matters when those heels make your outfit look 🔥. Every girl has had at least one night where she’s powered through the pain because she refused to let discomfort win. The stubbornness to “make it work” leads to countless nights of wobbling, carrying flats in a purse just in case, and even using band-aids as a desperate attempt to keep going.

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And let’s be honest—when someone asks, “Are you okay?” while you’re limping, the automatic response is always, “I’m fine.”

Holding On to That One Bra That Has Seen Better Days

You know the one—the straps are barely hanging on, the underwire is poking through (but somehow, it doesn’t hurt that much), and it has stretched out beyond recognition. Yet, it’s the comfiest bra you own, and you refuse to part with it.

Sure, you have newer, fancier ones sitting in your drawer, but nothing feels quite as right as this well-worn, slightly battle-scarred piece of lingerie.

Convincing Yourself You Can Carry Everything in One Trip

Why make two trips when you can nearly break your arms trying to carry it all at once? Whether it’s bringing in grocery bags, carrying a pile of laundry, or juggling way too many shopping bags, there’s something about making one epic trip that feels like a personal achievement.

Does it matter if your fingers are turning purple from the weight? Nope. Does it matter if you drop half of it and have to go back anyway? Still no. It’s the principle of it all.

“I Don’t Need a Jacket” – Famous Last Words

How many times has someone told you to bring a jacket, and you confidently said, “No, I’ll be fine,” only to spend the next few hours freezing and regretting every life decision? But instead of admitting defeat, you’ll cross your arms, shiver in silence, and pretend you’re not cold.

Borrowing someone else’s jacket? That’s an option—but stubbornness wins every time.

Not Washing Your Hair Because “It Still Looks Fine”

Dry shampoo exists for a reason, and girls have mastered the art of stretching a hair wash as long as possible. Day three? It’s still fine. Day four? Maybe a ponytail. Day five? A messy bun totally counts as a hairstyle.

It’s not laziness—it’s about preserving the natural oils and making sure you don’t strip your hair of its moisture… or at least, that’s what we tell ourselves.

Refusing to Ask for Help Until It’s Absolutely Necessary

Whether it’s assembling furniture, opening a jar, or lifting something heavy, there’s a certain level of stubborn pride in trying to do it alone first. The jar lid might require 10 minutes of struggling and gritted teeth, but victory tastes sweeter when you finally pop it open without assistance.

And if someone offers to help? The automatic response is, “I got it.”

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Keeping Clothes You Haven’t Worn in Years – Just in Case

That dress from five years ago that you might need for a special occasion? The jeans that haven’t fit in ages but could fit again one day? Every girl has a closet full of “just in case” outfits that never actually get worn—but getting rid of them? Impossible.

Because the moment you do, you’ll suddenly find the perfect occasion where you wish you still had it. And that’s a regret no one wants.

Using Every Last Drop of a Beauty Product

It doesn’t matter if squeezing out that last bit of foundation requires full upper-body strength or if your mascara is practically dry—you paid for it, so you’re using it to the bitter end. Cutting open lotion bottles, scooping out the last remains of a face cream, or even adding a little water to shampoo just to make it last longer? Classic signs of beauty-product stubbornness.

Final Thoughts

Stubbornness isn’t just a personality trait—it’s a survival skill. From refusing to waste a single swipe of lipstick to convincing ourselves we don’t need a jacket, every girl has her own set of determined quirks. It’s not about being difficult; it’s about maximizing what we have, standing our ground, and proving (mostly to ourselves) that we can make it work.

Because at the end of the day, being a little stubborn just makes life more interesting.

My Wife Died in a Plane Crash 23 Years Ago – If Only I’d Known It Wouldn’t Be Our Last Meeting

After losing my wife Emily in a plane crash, I learned to live with regret. I spent 23 years mourning my lost love, only to discover that fate had left me one more meeting with her and a jolting truth I’d never dreamed of.

I stood at Emily’s grave, my fingers tracing the cold marble headstone. Twenty-three years, and the pain still felt fresh. The roses I’d brought were bright against the gray stone, like drops of blood on snow.

A grieving man in a cemetery | Source: Midjourney

A grieving man in a cemetery | Source: Midjourney

“I’m sorry, Em,” I whispered, the words catching in my throat. “I should have listened.”

My phone buzzed, pulling me from my thoughts. I almost ignored it, but habit made me check the screen.

“Abraham?” my business partner James’s voice crackled through the speaker. “Sorry to bother you on your cemetery visit day.”

“It’s fine.” I cleared my throat, trying to sound normal. “What’s up?”

“Our new hire from Germany lands in a few hours. Could you pick her up? I’m stuck in meetings all afternoon.”

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A man holding a phone in a cemetery | Source: Midjourney

I glanced at Emily’s headstone one last time. “Sure, I can do that.”

“Thanks, buddy. Her name’s Elsa. Flight lands at 2:30.”

“Text me the flight details. I’ll be there.”

The arrivals hall buzzed with activity as I held up my hastily made sign reading “ELSA.”

A young woman with honey-blonde hair caught my eye and walked over, pulling her suitcase. Something about her movement and the way she carried herself made my heart skip a beat.

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A young woman in an airport waving her hand | Source: Midjourney

“Sir?” Her accent was slight but noticeable. “I’m Elsa.”

“Welcome to Chicago, Elsa. Please, call me Abraham.”

“Abraham.” She smiled, and for a moment, I felt dizzy. That smile reminded me so much of something I couldn’t quite pinpoint.

“Shall we get your luggage?” I asked quickly, pushing the thought away.

On the drive to the office, she spoke about her move from Munich and her excitement about the new job. There was something familiar about her laugh and the way her eyes crinkled at the corners.

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A man driving a car | Source: Midjourney

“I hope you don’t mind,” I said, “but the team usually does lunch together on Thursdays. Would you like to join us?”

“That would be wonderful! In Germany, we say ‘Lunch makes half the work.'”

I laughed. “We say something similar here… ‘Time flies when you’re having lunch!'”

“That’s terrible!” She giggled. “I love it.”

At lunch, Elsa had everyone in stitches with her stories. Her sense of humor matched mine perfectly — dry, slightly dark, with perfect timing. It was uncanny.

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A delighted woman laughing | Source: Midjourney

“You know,” Mark from accounting said, “you two could be related. Same weird jokes.”

I laughed it off. “She’s young enough to be my daughter. Besides, my wife and I never had children.”

The words tasted bitter in my mouth. Emily and I had wanted children so badly.

Over the next few months, Elsa proved herself invaluable at work. She had my eye for detail and determination. Sometimes, watching her work reminded me so much of my late wife that my chest would tighten.

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A woman in an office | Source: Midjourney

“Abraham?” Elsa knocked on my office door one afternoon. “My mother’s visiting from Germany next week. Would you like to join us for dinner? She’s dying to meet my new American family. I mean, my boss!”

I smiled at her choice of words. “I’d be honored.”

The restaurant the following weekend was quiet and elegant. Elsa’s mother, Elke, was studying me with an intensity that made me uncomfortable. When Elsa excused herself to the restroom, Elke’s hand shot out, gripping my shoulder with surprising strength.

“Don’t you dare look at my daughter that way,” she hissed.

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A furious senior woman frowning | Source: Midjourney

I jerked back. “Excuse me?”

“You heard me. I know everything about you, Abraham. Everything.”

“I don’t understand what you’re talking about.”

“Let me tell you a story,” she interrupted, her voice dropping to a whisper. Her eyes held mine, and suddenly I couldn’t look away. “A story about love, betrayal, and second chances.”

Elke leaned forward, her fingers wrapped around her wine glass. “Once, there was a woman who loved her husband more than life itself. They were young, passionate, and full of dreams.”

“I don’t see what this has to do with—”

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An anxious man in a restaurant | Source: Midjourney

“Listen,” she commanded softly. “This woman wanted to give her husband something special. You see, there was an old friend… someone who’d had a falling out with her husband years ago. She thought, ‘What better gift than to heal old wounds?’

My heart began to pound as Elke continued.

“She reached out to this friend, Patrick. Remember that name, Abraham? They met in secret, planning a surprise reconciliation for her husband’s birthday.”

The room seemed to spin. “How do you know about Patrick?”

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A man gaping in shock | Source: Midjourney

She continued as if I hadn’t spoken. “Then, just before the birthday celebration, she discovered something wonderful. She was pregnant. For a brief moment, everything was perfect. A baby, a reconciled friendship, a complete family… Just perfect.”

Her voice cracked. “But then came the photographs. Her husband’s sister, always so protective and jealous, brought them to him. Pictures of his wife walking with Patrick, talking, laughing, their secret meetings at the park. Everything. And instead of asking, instead of trusting the woman he claimed to love, he just—”

“Stop!” I whispered.

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A shocked man holding his head | Source: Midjourney

“He threw her out,” Elke continued. “Wouldn’t take her calls. Wouldn’t let her explain that she’d been planning his birthday surprise, that Patrick had agreed to come to the party, to make peace after all these years.”

Tears were running down her face now. “She tried to end it all. She wanted to just run away somewhere where nobody knew her. But her employer found her and got her help. Arranged for her to leave the country and start fresh. But the plane—”

“The plane crashed,” I finished, my voice hollow.

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An airplane | Source: Unsplash

“Yes. The plane crashed. She was found with another passenger’s ID — a woman named Elke who hadn’t survived. Her face was unrecognizable. Required multiple surgeries to reconstruct. And all the while, she carried a child. Your child, Abraham.”

“EMILY?” The name came out as a broken whisper. “You’re ali—”

“ALIVE!” She nodded slowly, and I saw it then. Those eyes… beneath the different face, the changed features. Those same eyes I’d fallen in love with 25 years ago.

“And Elsa?”

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A smiling senior woman in a restaurant | Source: Midjourney

“Is your daughter.” She took a shaky breath. “When she told me about her wonderful new boss in Chicago and showed me your picture, I knew I had to come. I was afraid…”

“Afraid of what?”

“That history might repeat itself. That you might fall for her, not knowing who she was. The universe has a cruel sense of humor sometimes.”

I sat back, stunned. “All these months… the similar sense of humor, the familiar gestures. Jesus Christ! I was working alongside my own daughter?”

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An emotional man | Source: Midjourney

“She has so much of you in her,” Emily said softly. “Your determination, your creativity. Even that terrible pun habit of yours.”

Elsa returned to find us both silent, tears streaming down my face. Emily took her hand.

“Sweetheart, we need to talk outside. There’s something you need to know. Come with me.”

They were gone for what felt like hours. I sat there, memories flooding back — Emily’s smile the day we met, our first dance, and the last terrible fight. Memories crashed over me like a boulder, and my head started to ache.

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A stunned man holding his head | Source: Midjourney

When they returned, Elsa’s face was pale, her eyes red-rimmed. She stood there, staring at me like she was seeing a ghost.

“DAD?”

I nodded, unable to speak. She crossed the distance between us in three steps and threw her arms around my neck. I held her tight, breathing in the scent of her hair, feeling 23 years of loss and love crash over me at once.

“I always wondered,” she whispered against my shoulder. “Mom never talked about you, but I always felt like something was missing.”

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A young woman in a bustling restaurant | Source: Midjourney

The weeks that followed were a blur of long conversations, shared memories, and tentative steps forward. Emily and I met for coffee, trying to bridge the gulf of years between us.

“I don’t expect things to go back to how they were,” she said one afternoon, watching Elsa through the café window as she parked her car. “Too much time has passed. But maybe we can build something new… for her sake.”

I watched my daughter — God, my daughter — walk toward us, her smile brightening the room. “I was so wrong, Emily. About everything,” I turned to my wife.

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An emotional man looking outside | Source: Midjourney

“We both made mistakes,” she said softly. “But look what we made first.” She nodded toward Elsa, who was now arguing playfully with the barista about the proper way to make a cappuccino.

One evening, as we sat in my backyard watching the sunset, Emily finally told me about the crash. Her voice trembled as she recounted those terrifying moments.

“The plane went down over the lake,” she said, her fingers tightening around her tea cup. “I was one of 12 survivors. When they pulled me from the water, I was barely conscious, clutching a woman named Elke’s passport. We’d been seated together, talking about our pregnancies. She was pregnant too. But she didn’t make it.”

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A sad woman with her eyes closed | Source: Midjourney

Emily’s eyes grew distant. “The doctors said it was a miracle both the baby and I survived. Third-degree burns covered most of my face and upper body. During the months of reconstructive surgery, I kept thinking about you, about how fate had given me a new face and a new chance. But I was scared, Abraham. Scared you wouldn’t believe me. Scared you’d reject us again.”

“I would have known you,” I whispered. “Somehow, I would have known.”

She smiled sadly. “Would you? You worked with our daughter for months without recognizing her.”

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A senior woman smiling | Source: Midjourney

The truth of her words stabbed me. I thought about all the little moments over the years: the dreams where Emily was trying to tell me something, the strange sense of familiarity when I met Elsa, and the way my heart seemed to recognize what my mind couldn’t grasp.

“When I was strong enough,” Emily continued, “Elke’s family in Munich took me in. They’d lost their daughter, and I’d lost everything. We helped each other heal. They became Elsa’s family too. They knew my story and kept my secret. It wasn’t just my choice to make anymore.”

Grayscale shot of a woman holding a baby girl | Source: Unsplash

Grayscale shot of a woman holding a baby girl | Source: Unsplash

I left that conversation with a new understanding of the woman I’d thought I knew.

And while our relationship would never be perfect, I knew that sometimes the truth about people isn’t as clear as we think. Sometimes it takes 23 years, a twist of fate, and a daughter’s laugh to help us see what was there all along.

Finally, I understood something: Love isn’t about perfect endings.It’s about second chances and finding the courage to rebuild from the ashes of what was lost. And sometimes, if you’re very lucky, those ashes give birth to something even more beautiful than what came before.

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A man smiling | Source: Midjourney

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