According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Fans call Goldie Hawn, 78, “ugly” in swimsuit photos, Kurt Russell defends her, says she’s beautiful
With an unwavering sense of confidence, Goldie Hawn consistently dazzles her fans with grace, even in the face of online negativity. The actress acknowledges the realities of aging in Hollywood but remains unfazed by trolls and their hurtful remarks.
As one of Hollywood’s most beloved figures, Goldie, alongside her partner Kurt Russell, exudes a resilience that comes from decades in the spotlight. Delve deeper into why Goldie Hawn faces criticism online as we explore her remarkable journey!
Goldie Hawn stands as a formidable matriarch of a renowned acting dynasty, including Oliver (47), Kate Hudson (45), and Wyatt Russell (37). Her down-to-earth charm has secured her iconic roles in films such as “Private Benjamin” (1980), “Overboard” (1987) alongside Kurt Russell, her partner since 1983, and Steven Spielberg’s “The Sugarland Express” (1972).
Before meeting Russell, Goldie navigated through two divorces, opting to skip marriage with Russell in favor of a committed partnership. As she told Woman’s Day in 2007: “We’ve done perfectly fine without getting married. I feel committed already, isn’t that the essence of marriage?”
Kate Hudson, herself a Golden Globe nominee, praises their union, describing them as a perfect match. “Mom is a free spirit, always on the move, while Kurt cherishes his home and family”, she shared. “When they’re together, it’s a powerful dynamic”, she added, referring to their actor son and their strong family bond.
Goldie Hawn, with her trademark golden locks and enduring charm, remains radiant after over five decades in the limelight, embracing the natural process of aging. “Aging is part of life. Embracing it fully means recognizing life’s continuous transformations”, she shared with People. “Growing older? It means you’re still alive!”
Despite her positive outlook, Goldie Hawn acknowledges the ageism entrenched in Hollywood. “Women will always fight this battle”, she remarked to Bazaar. “You don’t expect Hollywood to embrace you when you hit forty-five and show them you’re still desirable and marketable. It’s a specific world”, she added, remaining unfazed by the industry’s narrow standards.
Though she embraces her age gracefully, Goldie Hawn isn’t immune to the onslaught of online abuse. Even during their idyllic 2022 getaway to Greece, where photos showed them enjoying the sun and sea, the internet wasn’t always kind. Critics criticized their appearance, dismissing their enduring love and confidence as they age gracefully.
Despite the negativity, many fans rallied around the couple, especially after their endearing appearances together in films like “The Christmas Chronicles,” where they portrayed Mr. and Mrs. Claus. “They look amazing! There will always be trolls, but their love shines through”, defended one supportive fan.
Goldie’s lifelong companion, Kurt Russell, has always been her staunchest supporter. Recalling their Hollywood Walk of Fame ceremony in 2017, where they received stars side by side, he declared his love publicly: “Goldie, I owe my incredible life to you. There’s no one else I’d rather be next to”, he affirmed, encapsulating their enduring bond.
At 78, Goldie Hawn continues to captivate and inspire, navigating fame and aging with grace. Share this story and let us know your thoughts.
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