According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Everyone loves Jennifer Aniston
While Jennifer Aniston seems to lead a charmed life, her reality is anything but flawless. Behind her glamorous exterior and friendly demeanor lies a story of personal struggles and professional hurdles.
Despite the challenges she has faced, Jennifer Aniston remains a stunning example of aging gracefully and has retained much of her charm from her early career days. However, recently leaked photos revealed a rougher side of her, showing her without makeup and with minor scars on her face.
These images remind us that even those we admire from afar have their own struggles and imperfections that we may not see. For celebrities like Jennifer, with constant media attention, it’s difficult to maintain even a semblance of privacy.
Jennifer’s path to success often came at the expense of her personal life. Yet her resilience and grace in the face of adversity continue to inspire many. Born in 1969 in Sherman Oaks, a picturesque area of Los Angeles, Jennifer dreamed of acting from a young age. Her family’s move to New York City enabled her to attend the prestigious Waldorf School, but high school was not easy, with strict teachers and threats of expulsion.
To make a living outside of acting, Jennifer took on a variety of jobs: waitressing, telemarketing, and even bicycle messenger around town. Despite numerous setbacks, including limited success with early television roles, she never gave up on her dream.
Her persistence paid off when she landed the role of Rachel Green in Friends. Her portrayal of Rachel became iconic, leaving a lasting impression on television audiences and earning her a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. This role catapulted her to fame and cemented her position as one of Hollywood’s highest-paid actresses, especially after her highly publicized relationship with Brad Pitt.
Jennifer and Brad’s relationship began in 1998 and they married in 2000. Although their divorce in 2005 was difficult, they maintain a respectful and supportive friendship.
Recently, Jennifer has been vocal about her dissatisfaction with the way women are portrayed in Hollywood and the pressure of societal beauty standards. She uses her platform to promote female empowerment and showcase her natural beauty, frequently sharing makeup-free photos on Instagram, which have been widely praised.
Her stance on body positivity and disregard for conventional beauty standards has made her a role model for many. Jennifer’s refusal to conform to societal expectations underscores her commitment to embracing her true self and has earned her admiration beyond Hollywood.
A recent photo of Jennifer with no makeup and scars on her face, taken on the set of Cake, surprised many of her followers. Thankfully, this look was part of her role in the film and Jennifer has expressed her appreciation for being able to showcase her natural self.
Her performance in “Cake” once again proved her remarkable talent and charisma. While Jennifer Aniston continues to deliver outstanding performances in both film and television, she remains a captivating and inspiring figure, proving that true beauty and talent shine through regardless of outward appearance.
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