A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
A Touching Story of Transformation
Mayra Lisbeth Rosales, once recognized as the world’s most obese lady, has an inspiring story that will warm your heart. It is a story about overcoming obstacles, discovering inner strength, and making positive changes in the face of adversity. This is the story of Mayra’s miraculous change, and it serves as a reminder that it is never too late to start working on yourself.
A Life-Altering Moment
Mayra’s journey took a dramatic turn when a tragic event unfolded in her life. Her sister, in a moment of anger, caused serious harm to her own child, resulting in hospitalization and the heartbreaking loss of the child’s life. This devastating incident made Mayra realize that she needed to step up as the primary caregiver for her sister’s children. It was this heartbreaking moment that became the catalyst for her weight loss journey.
Overcoming the Impossible
Mayra’s determination to change led her to undergo a series of surgeries, with the support of a dedicated team of doctors and firefighters. These surgeries were no easy feat, as special equipment was required to transport her from her bed to the hospital. Through 11 surgeries, Mayra faced the daunting task of addressing the damage caused by her immense weight on her skin and muscles. But she refused to let these obstacles define her, and with unwavering commitment, she triumphed over every challenge.
n Extraordinary Achievement
Mayra’s journey was not only about losing weight; it was about regaining control of her life for the sake of her sister’s children. Through exercise regimens approved by medical specialists, she made incredible progress. Her efforts resulted in an astonishing weight loss of over 400 kilograms, which amounts to an 80 percent reduction. Today, Mayra enjoys a significantly improved quality of life, weighing a healthy 91 kilograms. Her transformation has not only brought physical changes but also a newfound sense of confidence and vitality.
A Beacon of Inspiration
Mayra Lisbeth Rosales’ inspiring journey is a testament to the power of the human spirit and the strength of determination. Her story reminds us that no matter how tough our circumstances may be, it is never too late to transform our lives for the better. Mayra’s unwavering resilience and commitment to her goals serve as an inspiration to us all. She teaches us to embrace challenges with courage, believe in ourselves, and find the inner strength to overcome any obstacles that come our way.
Mayra’s extraordinary transformation has touched the hearts of many. Her story is a shining example of what is possible when we believe in ourselves and refuse to let adversity define us. May we all draw inspiration from Mayra’s journey and have the courage to embark on our own paths of transformation.
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