Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around

A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.

Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.

Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.

Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.

Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.

A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”

Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.

While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?

Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”

With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.

There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).

A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.

Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.

Bless!

What Caitlyn Jenner’s Kids Called Her After Her Transition Has Fans Turning Heads

Caitlyn Jenner became well-known as an athlete in the 1970s. She won gold and set a world record in Montreal, Canada, during the 1976 Summer Olympics. She continued to work in the entertainment sector after finishing her career.

But Caitlyn has recently been under scrutiny for her disclosure of being transgender and her use of hormone therapy to alter her gender. Many people find inspiration in Jenner because of her courageous choice.

But the ex-pro athlete is certain that she still contains the “old Bruce.” You now possess all the necessary knowledge on Caitlyn Jenner!

On October 28, 1949, in Mount Kisco, New York, William Bruce Jenner—later known as Caitlyn Jenner—was born. Despite her struggles as a child with dyslexia, sports ultimately saved her life. Because Caitlyn was gifted in many areas, she excelled in sports throughout her early years.

Caitlyn Jenner’s early years

In high school, Jenner excelled at basketball, football, and water skiing. But track and field would prove to be her true love.

But Caitlyn was immediately awarded a football scholarship from Iowa’s Graceland College. She was unable to play on the field due to a knee injury, therefore she had to switch to track and field.

As said before, Caitlyn was a gifted athlete who was recognized as the most important player on her high school track, basketball, and football teams, winning honors for her abilities. But at that stage in her life, she was already struggling with her gender identification.

Jenner said, “I look at guys and I go, ‘He’s comfortable in his own skin.’”And I said to myself, ‘Wouldn’t that be a great way to live?’ I often think to myself, “Oh my God, how lucky are they that they can wake up in the morning and be themselves,” when I look at ladies. However, I’m stranded here in the midst.

Caitlyn Jenner was convinced to start training for the Olympic decathlon, an athletics combination event that consists of ten track and field disciplines, by her undergraduate track coach, L.D. Weldon. The coach, who was an expert in the very challenging track event, thought Jenner would be the best choice.

In 1971, Caitlyn took the Kansas Relays by surprise. The following year, she qualified for the US Olympic squad and finished ninth in the Olympic Decathlon held in Munich.

Olympic gold medallist

Even while it was a notable achievement, Jenner knew she could do much better. For the next four years, she practiced for eight hours a day, starting a demanding training routine.

For the Summer Olympics in Montreal, Canada, in 1976, Jenner was ready.

On July 30, 1976, she broke the previous world record with 8,618 points, winning the decathlon in the Olympics at the age of 26.

Jenner’s Olympic gold medal was noteworthy given the turbulent circumstances the US was going through as a result of major concerns such as Watergate, the aftermath of the Vietnam War, and other issues. Because of their long, flowing hair, which gave them the appearance of a lion at the time, they were seen as big American superheroes and became symbols.

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In addition, although her original plan was to transition entirely before turning forty, she had started to develop breasts. But at 39, Jenner made the decision to stop the process.

Caitlyn was struggling with her identity. However, as a well-known person, Caitlyn’s situation was made worse by the lack of tolerance and compassion for transgender people and those going through a transition at the same time that she was experiencing identity challenges.

But if there’s one thing about Caitlyn Jenner, it’s that she was and still is brave. Until she decided to tell her older sister Pam, it was the first time a family member had heard about her gender dilemma.

Meanwhile, some of her family was having trouble understanding her.

In 1991, she tied the knot with Kris Jenner. They didn’t get divorced until 2015. Caitlyn Jenner gave birth to Kendall and Kylie Jenner, her two most well-known children, with Kris.

Kris and Caitlyn were married for more than twenty years. Their family became well-known when they signed up for the reality series Keeping Up With The Kardashians in 2007, which also starred Caitlyn. Despite everything, she still felt that being a boy wasn’t real.

In 2013, Kris and Caitlyn broke up. Four months later, she carried on with her transition without telling her children.

I still feel like she has Bruce inside of her.

Jenner was worried about her family’s reaction because they were not informed of her plans.

“I realized that evening that everything was, like, over. My heart is racing. and I reasoned that wouldn’t be the most convenient thing to be at the moment,” Caitlyn Jenner said.

2014 saw the finalization of Kris and Caitlyn’s divorce. She told each and every one of her children about her change. They were all really supportive of her.

As of right now, Caitlyn Jenner has come to terms with her new life, which is obviously extremely different from her old one. Kendall and Kylie still call her “dad” on occasion. She asserted, however, that she didn’t believe the uncertainty to be worrisome.

“I am aware that we spoke a few years ago and you agreed that we could continue to refer to you as dad. How do you feel about that now? Caitlyn’s daughter Kylie asked her in a video that was uploaded to her YouTube channel how she felt about that at the time.

Caitlyn Jenner’s wealth online

It was, in my opinion, one of my better choices. Everyone has an opinion, and this community can be really harsh at times, particularly when it comes to pronouns,” Caitlyn retorted.

However, I truly believed from the start that I had to do things the way that worked for me and that everyone else could do things the way that worked for them. “You’re the mother,” others could remark, but I’m not. I shall be their father till the day they pass away or I pass away because I am their father and I always have been.

It has been over five years since Caitlyn Jenner’s transition, yet she still feels as though “Bruce” is a part of her. As she did prior to her transformation, she still finds enjoyment in the pursuits that Bruce loved, such as fast automobiles and airplanes.