Mum, Dad, my brother Michael: everyone in the family got more affection from our ridgeback-staffie cross. And guess whose bed she used to poo on…
I think the tone was set when Ella threw up over me on the way back from the Dogs Trust. She was three months old, rolling around on the back seat between me and my twin brother, Michael (we’d just turned seven), and wasn’t enjoying her first trip in a car. She could have been sick anywhere – over the seat, over the floor – but for some reason she decided to climb on to me first.
It was the start of a beautiful but strangely one-sided friendship. Ella, a ridgeback-staffie cross, was the perfect dog: playful, energetic, naughty and tolerant. She would let us poke and prod her without complaint, turn her ears inside-out or dress her up in T-shirts or the thick woollen poncho my Greek Cypriot grandma knitted her for the British winter. And she was endlessly loving, at least to the other members of the family. Me? Too often it was as if I didn’t exist. If Michael and I were sitting on the sofa, she’d bound up to him. If I came home after a day out with my dad, he was the one she’d jump at. If I tried to take her for a walk by myself, she’d drag her feet and insist that I fetch my brother.
To add insult to injury, about once a year she would do a poo in the house. Not just anywhere, though: she’d climb the stairs to my room and leave it in a neat pile on top of my bed.
I can’t pretend I wasn’t offended by Ella’s attitude – I loved her just as much as anyone. But it took me a while to realise that in her eyes we were both bitches fighting for our place in the pack. I read that dogs are 98.8% wolf, even yappy little chihuahuas. Ella was a definite she-wolf and my mother (she who opened the tin of dog food every night) was the undisputed alpha female. Ella could handle that fact, but she didn’t want to be the omega female. That was me.
Working out the reasons for Ella’s lack of sisterhood, understanding that her indifference was atavistic and not just casual, didn’t make me any less jealous of my brother, who always took great pleasure in the fact that Ella seemed to prefer him. But I resigned myself to the situation. And then one day (happy ending, anyone?) everything changed. I must have been 16 or 17, we’d been away for a fortnight in France, and when we got back it was me she ran up to first, whining and twisting with pleasure at seeing me again. After that it was like all those years of competition had never happened. We were best friends for ever, or at least for the couple of years she had left. Ella finally loved me.
Sending Belated Birthday Greetings: Expressing Your Good Wishes with a Personal Touch
Living in today’s world, it can be simple to forget about an important occasion like a loved one’s birthday. The fast-paced nature of life, unforeseen circumstances, or even just not remembering can cause us to miss out on commemorating an important day.
Although the birthday may have already passed, it’s never too late to make amends and show your sincerest belated wishes. In this article, we’ll explore how to express your feelings with truthfulness, personalization, and affection.
To begin, you must acknowledge that you missed their special day, but emphasize that it doesn’t diminish its importance in your heart. A heartfelt belated wish can mean just as much as an on-time one, so don’t let lateness prevent you from reaching out.
Think about what makes your relationship with the person unique and use those details to craft a thoughtful message that reflects your shared experiences, inside jokes, or precious memories. Adding a personal touch to your belated birthday wishes shows that you’ve taken the time to reflect on your bond and make your message special.
Choosing the right medium to convey your message is also essential. A handwritten letter or a carefully selected card can serve as tangible keepsakes, while a heartfelt video message adds a personal touch. The medium you select should align with your style and the recipient’s preferences.
Make sure your belated birthday wishes are genuine and express real regret for the delay. Let the person know that they matter to you and that you hold them dear, even if you didn’t acknowledge their special day on time. Your sincerity and the warmth of your words can help make up for the late wishes.
Turn your belated birthday wishes into an opportunity to highlight the positives. Celebrate their achievements, their impact on your life, or the joy they bring to those around them. Remind them of their significance and why they are so special to you. This positive reinforcement can turn a belated wish into a heartfelt celebration.
If possible, plan a special get-together or activity to compensate for the delay. This demonstrates your commitment to creating lasting memories, even if it’s slightly delayed. It shows that you’re willing to make amends and celebrate their special day in a memorable way.
A little bit of humor can also go a long way. Consider adding a well-placed joke or witty comment to your belated birthday wishes to make the person smile and lessen any disappointment from the late wishes. It shows that you can laugh at yourself, and the relationship is strong enough to handle a little lateness.
If you choose to send a gift along with your belated birthday wishes, think about the person’s interests and preferences. A thoughtful gift can show that you’ve put thought and effort into selecting something meaningful. Let this be an opportunity to make up for the late wishes and show that you care.
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